Shimmering Snippets of Advice For Busy People

On worrying what other people think… 

What stops most of us from embracing who we are and standing in our power is a gripping fear of what other people think. There will always be someone who has a different opinion to you, someone who would have done things differently (not better, just differently), someone who doesn’t get you or someone who doesn’t reciprocate the kindness you extend to them. You can either allow other peoples’ opinions to control your life, playing small to meet their smallness, or you can rise above, take a risk and be who you were always meant to be. When you ask yourself why do other people’s opinions matter (and you know your ego will want to know!) ask “Why does this bother me?” It’s not about you, it’s about them. Stop living small. Stop apologising for who you are. Stop squeezing yourself into boxes others present to you. Wayne Dyer summed it up perfectly: “What people think of me is none of my business.”

Celebrate other people’s success like your own…

We are all meant to be big. To live delicious, vibrant lives. When a friend tells you they got a promotion/ bought a new house/ are having a baby/ met the man or woman of their dreams, celebrate with them. Be there, wholeheartedly, and share that excitement with them knowing that in sharing their joy, you invite the same energy into your life. We’re all good at being the shoulder to cry on when our nearest and dearest need support, but often we hold back when our friend needs us to be their cheerleader, the person that says “I’m so proud of what you’ve achieved.” Sometimes the jealousy or insecurity we have around the success of others arises because we don’t have the faith that the kind of success our friend is experiencing could also one day be our own. It can be and it will be.

You are enough…

You were born enough. Your work is enough. Comparing yourself to others makes us feel inadequate so remind yourself today that you are exactly where you’re supposed to be and you’ll get to where you want to be in good time. The number of followers you have on your blog is enough. The hours you billed last month are enough. Your house is clean enough, you give your child more than enough love every day. Repeat after me: I AM ENOUGH.

On overwhelm and saying no… 

You can’t do everything – and that’s ok. More than ok, in fact. The most important thing is to be present. I’ve never known the world to fall apart when everything on my to-list hasn’t been done. Learn to say no. Fear of saying no is rooted in the fear that if we’re not “yes” people, we won’t be liked, which is totally incorrect. Be confident, drop the guilt, lessen the load, give yourself a break and say no to the things that scatter your energy and take you further away from where you want to be.

Vulnerability fosters connection… 

Instead of layering mask upon mask and presenting the world with a carefully edited version of yourself, stand strong in your authenticity. Let the real you shine. Give up the need to be right all the time, to erect walls to hide your pain. Let people in.

Share your best ideas… 

There is more than enough for everyone when we tap in to our imaginations. Holding onto ideas you love creates a poverty consciousness, playing into the fear that you’ll never get another idea to fill its place. Releasing your ideas into the world frees up space for your next big idea to come along. Learning is a forward motion, understand this and take comfort in the knowledge that as you grow, the idea you think is your best yet will be overshadowed by something better. Give freely, help people, don’t hold back for fear they’ll “copy” or “take credit” for your bright idea. I love this passage from Paul Arden’s book “It’s Not How Good You Are, It’s How Good You Want to Be:”

“The problem with hoarding (your ideas) is that you end up living off your reserves. Eventually you’ll become stale. If you give away everything you have, you are left with nothing. This forces you to look, to be aware, to replenish. Somehow the more you give away the more comes back to you. Ideas are open knowledge. Don’t claim ownership. They’re not your ideas anyway, they’re someone else’s. They’re out there floating by on the ether. You just have to put yourself in a frame of mind to pick them up.”

On judging others…

When we judge others, we’re usually judging something we don’t like about ourselves. When we seek feedback, it’s because we’re starved for validation and approval. If we see others doing something we’re afraid of trying, our  automatic response might be to judge that person because it exposes our own fears. We’re left wondering “Why can they do it when we can’t?” and our response is to judge them to make us feel better. Being aware that most judgements of others are ego strategies to avoid uncomfortable feelings, giving us personal insights into the areas of our lives that need a bit of love.

Today…

Remember to walk in the truth of who you are.
Refuse to dumb down.
Refuse to beat yourself up for your mistakes. Accept them and move on.
Find what inspires you and start. Take those first wobbly steps towards your purpose.
Identify the areas of your life you’ve been pushing down and release them.
Don’t be afraid to show the world how messy and flawed you are. We all are.
Let other people help you out and be the one to help others.
Stay golden.

Images: 1. Pretty Stuff 2. Catherine Roach

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2 Comments to “Shimmering Snippets of Advice For Busy People”

  1. I just read this today and I think I stubled across it because it’s exactly what I needed.

    Thank you.

    I’m going to print those last words and hang them in my room. They are so perfect :)

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