How to Open Yourself Up to Receiving More in Your Life


Everything in life is flow.

Energy is constantly flowing to us and through us, so when it comes to opening the door to receiving more love, more happiness, more creativity and more soul-rocking, life-affirming abundance, there are a couple of things we need to do first to get out of our own way.

Here goes…


Let go of fear.

Have you ever found yourself so afraid of failure, so panic-stricken about (potential) loss, or not living up to expectations, that you spin your heels on success? Do you find yourself sprinting away from opportunity or saying no to more shimmering brilliance in your life because you think you’re undeserving or “not quite there yet?” As Tara Sophia Mohr says: “Are you more loyal to your fears than your dreams?”

It’s a potent question, and as you sharpen your tools and start opening up to more abundance in your life, there’s no doubt fear will rear its ugly mug. It’s natural and uncomfortable and can suck the life out of you (if you give it permission to) – but here’s the thing, it can also be totally transformative.

In order to fully open yourself up to receiving all the glorious gifts the Universe has on offer, it’s time to call your fear out. Call it out and stamp it out. When you refuse to play small, and take a risk by opening yourself up, with intention, to receiving more in your life, what you are in truth doing is nourishing that part of you that magnetises the good stuff. Energy is energy and by stepping out in good faith instead of backing down from your dreams, you lift the veil on fear-driven existing. That tired, played-out “lack” mentality goes out the window, and – wait for it – you realise that there always has been and always will be enough for everyone. Holy radical revelations!


Give freely.

Load up on love – and liberate it. Give praise that makes someone’s year, sprinkle joy with reckless abandon, show you’re (genuinely) interested, offer up your time. You’ll feel fuller, happier and more deeply satisfied with your life than ever before, and the great news is, while you’re basking in the sweet sunshine of selfless service, you’re actually expanding that space within you. This is where the abundance you have opened yourself up to will be able to flow with ease and alacrity.


Get clear on EXACTLY what you want – and ask for it.

Razor-sharp clarity is like a jolt of electricity for the soul. Your neck hairs will seriously stand on end.

When you’re clear about what you want more of (as well as want you don’t want) life will always rise up to meet you in that place of exquisite knowing. It’s a glorious little cycle and the good news is that getting there is super simple.

It’s like this:

STEP 1: Declare your dreams and desires. Write them down, create a vision board, tape them to your mirror, stuff them in your purse, wallpaper your bedroom in them (okay, maybe not, but please – go wild!)

STEP 2: Wrap yourself up in your desires daily. Visualise them, see yourself there, FEEL ‘EM, FEEL ‘EM, FEEL ‘EM (this is the clever part where your every day thoughts graciously shift to support them)

And then, since like attracts like, or “where the mind goes, energy flows” all the things that are in sync with those bold, juicy dreams or things you want more of in your life will start being sent your way.

I’m telling you: clarity opens the floodgates to affluence, in all areas of your life. The right people show up just when you need them, that awesome new client comes along just as you let go of the one that has been draining your joy stocks, the money you need flows in and everything lifts.

As you go out in the world today, make it your mission to get shiny-diamond clear. Kick fear to the curb, create space for abundance to flow in and keep asking for more. The Universe is waiting to say yes.



Here’s a goodie for you: What do you deserve? A simple question, yes, but a bloody complex (and revealing) one.

Off the bat, I think the majority of us would say we deserve to live happy, comfortable, fulfilling lives, but – and there’s a but – often there is something going on at a deeper level that’s in direct conflict with that statement, pulling us out of alignment.

On a small scale, that could mean following up a compliment from a friend with a negative response (“No way, I look terrible!”) or on a bigger scale, that could mean devaluing your work or staying in an emotionally abusive relationship. The thing is though, the most important part of the process when it comes to ushering in the spectacular abundance you say you want is knowing that you deserve to receive it.


Write this on your heart: you have an unlimited capacity to receive. It is MORE THAN OKAY to receive abundantly.

When it comes to others, allow them the pleasure of giving. Acknowledge kind gestures and know you’re worthy of glittering praise. When it comes to yourself, practice being an excellent receiver by showing deep gratitude for what you already have.

Scarcity thinking is based on the premise that everything is limited, but recognising fear and making the decision to dive in regardless will work wonders on “unsticking” your energy. The result is that you’ll lean further into life, and replace those (self-created) fears that have been keeping you stagnated for so long with a beautiful sense of curiosity. Energetically, it’s like waving a gigantic flag with big, bold letters saying “I’m ready for more. Show me.”

Bring. It. On.



Do you ever feel stuck “right where you are?” Are there areas in your life where you are more loyal to your fears than your dreams? 

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3 Steps To Achieving Your Dreams (Even When You’re Frozen In Fear)


* More empowering words o’ wisdom for you today from gorgeous guest poster Jen of Wild Sister fame. 


“Ultimately we know deeply that the other side of every fear is freedom.” ~ Mary Ferguson

Sometimes I feel like I’ve spent my entire life facing fears. It’s easy to feel that way when you’re recovering from anxiety.

Wow, I’ve never used the word ‘recovery’ referring to myself before. But it’s true.

I’ve come a helluva long way over the past few years, and it’s taken a ton of leaps, many heart-racing moments and countless slow, deep breaths, but I’m here.

Just a few years ago, I would experience full-blown panic attacks over something as simple as stepping outside of my front door.

I was terrified of doing anything on my own, and social situations would make me feel physically ill.

I felt so far a way from my dreams, it was heartbreaking.

Fast forward to now…

My husband and I are living overseas for the second time.

Last year, I flew across the country to attend a retreat with women I had never met before – all on my own.

I have achieved many of my biggest dreams, like running my own business, marrying my soulmate, travelling, and moving to Bali, just to name a few.

Now I’m on track to achieve brand new dreams, like becoming a philanthropist, see Europe and eventually start a family.

While I’ve accomplished a lot and completely changed my life in a seemingly short time, it took a lot of work. I really had to rebuild myself and my life, and I’m still not completely anxiety-free yet.

But I know I will be, if I just keep going.

There are still huge differences between who I am now and who I used to be. One being this; I don’t let fear stop me anymore.

I can see now that those fearful thoughts and feelings aren’t real, that I’m always safe, and that fear only has power if I give it power.

So, when it comes to making my dreams come true, I’m now a force to be reckoned with. I’m freaking unstoppable, baby! As someone who has had to face her biggest fears every single day, I’ve become an expert at it.

Here’s how I’ve learned to overcome fear to achieve my dreams…



“Fear is excitement without the breath.” ~ Fritz Perls

Take a few deep breaths, relax your shoulders, and look around you. Centre yourself in the moment.

Fear only lives in our minds. By being present in the here and now, it cannot survive – because we are always safe.


Let go.

“I have accepted fear as a part of life – specifically the fear of change. I have gone ahead despite the pounding in the heart that says: turn back.” ~ Erica Jong

You know that feeling you get in your gut when you think about your dream or goal? That pulling sensation that feels as though you’re literally being tugged towards your dream by an invisible rope?

Let it pull you.

Just let go and go with it.

Once you shift your perspective from your fears to your dreams, everything becomes so much clearer. Fear may be strong, but dreams are stronger.

Just keep your focus on your desires and let that fuel you for the next step.



“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” ~ Dale Carnegie

This is the hardest, but most important, step. Sitting around thinking about what scares you is guaranteed to make it worse.

The sooner you take action and start moving, the quicker you’ll realise you had nothing to be afraid of in the first place.

So just do it. If you want your dream more than you’re afraid of it, put one foot in front of the other – and never ever stop – nothing will be able to stop you from achieving it.

Repeat these steps whenever you start to feel fear creeping up – and you will. The goal here isn’t to eliminate the fear; it’s to move forward no matter how afraid we are.

We all feel fear every now and then, especially when we’re chasing our dreams and changing the world.

What’s important is to walk with the fear, to keep going even though our legs are trembling and our heart is racing.

That’s how barriers are broken, challenges are overcome and lives are changed.

You can do it.

You’re unstoppable.


Ready to take the next step? Leave a comment below and let us know what your next step is. Oh, and  if you have one to share, share your best tip for dealing with fear.


Jen Saunders is the creator of Wild Sister Magazine and the Wild Sisterhood. She’s a tie-dye wearing daydream believer, writer and spirit junkie. Jen’s got so much love for women who own their power, smile at themselves and believe that happiness is a choice – so if that’s you, give her a wave at any one of her online homes so you can connect!

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