Reach for Freedom by Just BEing

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* This guest post by life coach and all-round gorgeous woman, Kate Swoboda from Your Courageous Life is the perfect follow on from yesterday’s post on intention, embracing adventure and BEING in the moment. Enjoy!

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Consider this: How often do we start out on a dream and then give up if we run into several challenges or blocks? What would it look like if we weren’t attached to the end result, trusting that the challenges were part of the process? How much kinder would we be to ourselves if we were more invested in BEing our journey rather than “being on” a journey?

There’s a subtle, yet critical, difference between BEing your journey in life and being on a journey, and the difference between the two means everything when you’re trying to make real life changes.

BEing a journey looks like saying that you’re ready for change and holding that truth, without attaching to an idea of what it ‘has to’ look like at the end. You say that you want to run a business, write a book, or forgive your parents? BEing your journey means you stop having a preconceived idea of what that must look like. BEing your journey makes room for every dream you have to look differently than what you had expected.

BEing a journey is having a commitment to walking a path, not walking a path “if and only if it looks okay to me and I get what I want.” BEing a journey is the way of releasing an attachment to results.

BEing a journey creates more space for not giving up when challenges arise, because one can only give up on a task or a goal—we cannot give up on BEing. The emphasis shifts from attainment of some goal at the end—the job, the relationship, the weight loss, the awards, the money—and becomes about the deep process of living that happens along the way. This is about being present and alert to all of the beauty that you might otherwise miss, if you were focused solely on “arriving.”

BEing your journey is perhaps the most courageous and beneficial step you could take in your life.

Perhaps you’re reading this and thinking, “Wait a second. I want to change things. Now you’re suggesting that I let go of any attachment to changing things? Is this some kind of reverse-psychology? What am I going to get out of this?”

Here’s what we get out of choosing to BE a journey rather than focus on an end result, every single time.

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* Less tension or anxiety.

* Less worry about “messing it up” (how can you mess it up if you’re willing to BE a journey and trust that the “messing up” could be part of getting you to where you want to be? Every step, every piece, has value when you choose to BE a journey.)

Less control of others (You no longer need them act/be/say things/think a certain way).

What you’re hoping to cultivate in usually comes faster and easier.

When it doesn’t come faster and easier, you often realise later that the slower/harder path taught you a lot more and you’re grateful for it.

* When the thing you were hoping for didn’t come, without a doubt something even better, perhaps even something you wanted more, showed up.

Freedom – a glorious feeling of freedom to just. be. without. the. inner. critic. tension. (Basically, the “bad days” just don’t feel as bad when you’re not attaching to them as some kind of evidence of being on the wrong path—instead, BEing is accepting that bad days happen, they’re part of BEing a journey, and that’s that).

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Most importantly—a willingness to BE a journey has lets you set a goal and stay on the path. You don’t give up on things; you revise. Journeys are about moving along a path, not magically transporting from one point to another in a second. Because you allow that space, you see the evidence of change showing up in your life on a regular basis.

I invite you to start creating your life for yourself.

Create it by making connections with others and sharing your experience. Create it by staying more internal. Create it by deciding how much time you want to put in. Create it by getting a new, clean notebook or create it by chucking the notebook and writing on scarlet-red paper from the art store or by never writing down a thing but just carrying ideas through your day. Create it in a way that works for you, and be willing to BE a journey, to notice what works for you and what doesn’t, and to revise as you go along.

If you step into BEing a journey, you can’t “do it wrong”. Whatever shows up as “wrong” is the gift of noticing where something doesn’t work for you, and choosing a different path.

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Kate Swoboda is a Life Coach, speaker and writer who helps clients to lead unconventional and revolutionary lives through practicing courage. She’s the author of The Courageous Living Guide, and creator of the Courageous Play and Create Stillness retreats–as well as The Coaching Blueprint, a resource just for Life Coaches. When she’s not writing, coaching, or leading retreats in Italy and San Francisco, she can be found sipping chai in libraries, buffing up on her Italian, training for her next road race, or getting all bendy-stretchy on the yoga mat.

You can find Kate at www.yourcourageouslife.com.

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Ever caught yourself venturing down the path of “all striving, no arriving?” I know I definitely have, and there’s a marked difference in how much I relish achieving something when I haven’t taken the time to appreciate the steps and lessons along the way.

BEing to me means reading a book without reaching over to check Facebook on my phone between chapters. It means fully listening, giving someone my all. It means putting down the camera and soaking in the beauty of a new location first and foremost. It’s starting my day with an intention, meditating, practicing yoga, refraining from filling every moment with must-do’s, celebrating an accomplishments before diving into the next.

What about you? What does “BEing” look like in your life? I’d love to hear your stories, challenges and lessons learned in the comments below.

Image: Verily Mag


Making Me Happy


Today’s Making Me Happy is delivered in the form of a “catch up” video where I fill you in on what’s been happening in my world (and head) of late, along with a little exercise for you to take part in (never fear, it’s super simple).

A couple of other little things rocking my world…

A Day at the Beach

 

After a massive week, Ramai and I jumped in the car and took off down to Byron for the day on Sunday, where we read, lazed around, swam in the ocean countless times and took photos of ourselves looking slightly awkward/ strange, as evidenced above.

Fun times all round! Summer, I adore the pants off you.

This Affirmation

 

In the infinity of life where I am,
all is perfect, whole, and complete. My life is ever new.
Each moment of my life is new and fresh and vital.
I use my affirmative thinking to create exactly what I want.
This is a new day. I am a new me.
I think differently. I speak differently. I act differently.
Others treat me differently.
My new world is a reflection of my new thinking.
It is a joy and a delight to plant new seeds,
for I know these seeds will become my new experiences.
All is well in my world.

I’ve got these inspiring words from Louise Hay Blu-tacked to the wall behind my computer. Doesn’t that just make you feel gooooood inside? All is perfect, whole and complete. 

I also saw this somewhere recently and can’t for the life of me remember where I found it, but I’m a huge fan: Meditate Daily. Rest weekly. Retreat Monthly. Vacation Yearly.

SO MUCH YES.

Short and sweet from me today lovers, but I’m hanging to hear from you. As I mentioned in the video, jump in the comments below to share the ways you plan on making your life easier in 2013!

Image: SG Nowhere Man


Making Me Happy: Kicking 2013 off With a Bang!

Super pumped to be bringing you the first Making Me Happy post for 2013!

I’m not quite sure I can sum up the past few weeks – some of the most thrilling of my life – in this post, but some of the highlights are here and you can bet you’ll hear more about my transition from a full-time employee to an entrepreneur (!!) in subsequent posts.

For a visual walk through the Life of Rach (of late), let’s kick off with some Instagram shots (click to follow) shall we?

The Details

// Cooking up a storm with Donna Hay’s brilliant new cookbook Fresh and Light.

// Driving to Byron to have dinner at The Italian with Mel Ambrosini (the most divine creature ever) and her man Jamie “in real life.” Such an amazing couple. *Random sidenote here is that I always have “Oh-my-god-it-feels-like-we’ve-known-each-other-forever” moments with other Fire signs, and with a Leo, an Aries and a Saggo at the table, let’s just say the convo flowed like fine organic wine (with no alcohol involved at all). Brilliant.

// Green juicing like crazy. I try and keep things pretty healthy but I’m cranking things up a notch or 10 this year, as is Ramai. Maximum energy for making the big stuff happen.

// Date night with my gorgeous man – a “Hooray, you’re a business lady now!” celebratory dinner at one of our fave spots.

// Hydration. A must in this hot summer weather.

// Lots of running. I ran every day on the holidays – shorter runs, higher intensity, hills a-plenty. Loving it.

// Quinoa, chia and pea patties (adapted from Donna Hay’s book). Will definitely be making these again.

// Downing edamame beans like they’re going out of fashion (which would obviously never happen).

// Red lips. I’m loving the Kit Cosmetics lip gloss at the moment.

// New books. Always.

// Sneaky love notes written on heart-shaped Post It’s on my computer screen.

And I couldn’t possibly leave out the only shot I took on our SLR on the holidays… Homemade buckwheat pancakes. Drooling yet?

My Coaching Business!

 

Of course, this one takes the cake. It’s been all systems go since last Wednesday and let me tell you, I’m still in awe of the fact that I get to work with incredible women daily, supporting them with the right tools as they amplify their presence online (and their lives on the whole). Did anyone say ‘best job in the world?’

To give you an indication of how rad my clients are, I’ve been getting things like this:

“Dude, this is day ONE after working with YOU? Pretty sure I’ll barely recognise myself in a month!”

and this:

“I’m sitting outside in the sun and can’t wipe the smile off my face. Signing up for this month has been the best thing I’ve ever done for myself. I’m so freaken excited. And so so grateful and thankful to have found you. You make me feel like I can achieve my wildest dreams with this blog and being able to help people at a profound level! I can’t wait for your email and the worksheets and I’m thinking I’ll have to book you in and have you with me throughout the whole year (somehow!!). You are amazing!!”

and this:

“This morning I had the best session with this women @rachelmagahy. She is amazing and so freaking kick-ass at what she does…<3 <3 <3 her…”

…which brings one simple word to my mind: BLESSED.

I dropped in to my old work today to catch up with a friend for lunch and it felt like I hadn’t been there for years (not a mere 3 weeks). So much has happened since I finished at the end of December – epiphanies, inspiring conversations and revelations about the unlimited potential of All of This Stuff – and I left feeling enormously grateful for the ways in which I’m being supported/ expanded/ soulfully embraced by the Universe right now. When the work comes naturally and you’re the happiest  you’ve ever been, harnessing that universal love and supporting sweet souls as they rock it out is a no brainer. Again, blessings.

I’m going to dive in to some of the nuts and bolts of “how” I’m running my biz soon (and will be doing some ‘lifestyle experiments’ to see what works best for me schedule-wise), but for now I wanted to mention that I’ve got a few spots available on my calendar for the last week of Jan, and will then be taking more bookings for Feb.

My introductory prices will be increasing in Feb as well so if you’ve been thinking about teaming up with me, jump in quick to secure your place at the current price! Email me rachel (at) inspacesbetween (dot) com for more.

Dreaming… slowly

 

If you’ve wondered why I haven’t posted anything on 2013 intentions or vision-boarding or my words for the year, I’ll let you in on a little secret – it’s because I haven’t gone through the process yet. Hey, what’s the date again?

I actually can’t remember the last time I started a new year without an action plan and giant dreams, but with my business taking off in whambamkazam fashion as mentioned above and my focus solely on my clients and helping them achieve their goals for the year, the time simply hasn’t been there to really get down ‘n’ dirty with it all. And, you know, doing this big work requires a whole lotta creativity and a generous helping of “white space.”

Until the weekend rolls around and I throw myself into 2013 dreamin’ mode with a few key workbooks (will tell you more about this), I think I’ll continue adding to the collection of Post It’s stuck on the wall behind my computer, the doodles in my Moleskine and the inspiration files in Evernote.

What about you? Have you set your intentions for the year? Tell me about ’em.

Bush Flower Essences

 

I can’t quite explain it but these work. Just trust me on that one. A heads up that they also taste terrible (unless you enjoy the strong taste of brandy first thing in the morning).

Brand Spankin’ Stationery

 

Is there anything better than cracking a crisp new notebook and adorning those first few pages with your neatest handwriting?

Unfortunately, the neat handwriting is something that never lasts for me – I very quickly start to scrawl when the floodgates open and the inspiration starts flowing from my fingertips – but with my trusty connector pens at the ready this time, at least those scrawls will be vibrant.

I’ll admit here to feeling pretty gangsta with my custom-stamped ‘In Spaces Between’ Moleskines. They just feel a bit special, you know… and I have a very good feeling I can create a bit of magic in those there pages.

Mo’ love:

Long phone chats with my soul sistas + male energy – I love hanging out with guys and look forward to nurturing more dude friendships this year (along with even more wonderful female connections) + sunshine and ocean swims + inspiring Instagram accounts (check out ‘Loni Jane’ – her food shots and her bod are to die for!) + flow + Satori + pulling out just the right Oracle cards + pale grey nail polish + dreaming about our honeymoon (any Italy tips for us?) + grand changes.

And now, you, gorgeous one: tell me in the comments below what’s been lighting up your first week of 2013?

Images: Fieldguided | IOBAD

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2012: The Magical Moments of the Year That Was

2012. Oh, what a year. The biggest and most transformative 12 months of my life, without a doubt.

The first part of the year can be summed up as B.U.S.Y. Turning the wedding around in five months – and trying to ‘do it all’ – was a little nuts and quite often I found I was thriving on adrenalin and gotta-get-it-done-ness rather than good, natural energy.

The obvious lesson for me here was that I needed to learn to ask for help – sooner. Got it. 

After the wedding, everything began to flow beautifully and opportunities started showing up all over the place. I learnt to deeply trust my intuition and measure all my decisions up against how a situation makes me feel. I turned down one promising gig because I knew I wouldn’t be able to give it the attention it required, but more importantly, because it would take me further away from my other dreams and desires.

I’ve never regretted it. This was just one instance of gut-knowing in 2012.

It’s been a year of enormous growth, new friendships, plenty of aha! moments, milestones, tears, laughter, dreams come true and pure, juicy love. Below are some of the stand out moments…

Bloggers Meet Up

 

January kicked off with a bang with a Gold Coast/ Brisbane bloggers meet up at Stingray bar. Nothing better than getting out from behind the computer and meeting the amazing ladies you’ve been conversing with online in “real life.”

Sydney

 

February was soon upon us and Ramai and I headed down to Sydney and had an awesome weekend exploring the Northern Beaches (the first time we’d checked out Manly, Avalon, Palm Beach et al and we shall be back!)

Read all about it:

A Sydney Weekend

Melbourne

 

I also flew to Melbourne for my best friend’s birthday and my first wedding dress fitting (!!) The above pics were all I snapped – clearly I was too busy enjoying myself to whip the camera out.

Alexander Wang Goodness

 

 

The other notable occasion in Feb? Becoming a proud mama to this gorgeous Alexander Wang creation, a shoulder-breaking hunk of a bag that hasn’t left my side since.

Astro Reading

 

March rolled around quickly and became one of my favourite months of the year.

First up was an eye-opening, energy-filled astrology reading with Tali Edut of AstroStyle, and having recently listened to the recording again I can tell you that everything we discussed has unfolded exactly the way Tali said it would (she even said “I could see you doing something like Marie Forleo’s B-School,” which I’d completely forgotten about, AND GUESS WHAT, I DID!)

Read all about it:

Making Me Happy 

Engagement Photo Shoot

 

Not long after my reading, we met up with our wedding photographer Ali Mitton for our engagement shoot in Byron Bay – a fun day with lots of laughing, kissing and staring deeply into each other’s eyes (haha!)

Sweet observation: Ramai always seems to be on my left – coincidentally, my “weaker” side – which is rather symbolic of our relationship. He really is my perfect complement – the fine detail to my big picture thinking, the calm to my enthusiasm, the left to my right.

Read all about it:

Our Engagement Photos

Hens Party

 

And then it was all about the laydees for my hens weekend – the best freaking two days ever!

I got to play stylist (any excuse). We belly laughed… uncontrollably. We danced. We drank mojitos from mason jars. We revelled in the depth of our collective friendships, and when I woke up on the Sunday morning, my heart, well it overfloweth with love, so it did.

Read all about it:

Making Me Happy: The Hens Party Edition

Selfish for 27 Days Featured Guest

 

In April, I was a featured guest in Susana Frioni’s Selfish for 27 days, speaking about the ways I manage overwhelm through positive reinforcement, visualisation and a bunch of other positive tactics.

The rest of the month zoomed by in a blur, knee deep in wedding to-do’s.

Read all about it:

6 Weeks Today: The Wedding Countdown is On

+ Behind the Scenes with a Bride-to-Be: 5 Weeks to Go 

Wedding Dress = Ready + Invisalign = Off!

 

May entailed flying to Melbourne to pick up my wedding dress (tears!), more wedding organisation, and after 12 months of everyday wear, getting my Invisalign off. Big grins all round.

Read all about it:

Behind the Scenes with a Bride-to-Be: Under 3 Weeks to Go

Guest Blogger on The Wellness Warrior

 

I was also invited to be a guest blogger for one of my favourite sites The Wellness Warrior.

Marrying the Man of My Dreams

 

The most magical day of my life happened this year – June 2, the day I married my best friend and soulmate, surrounded by the most important people in our lives.

I was never in a big rush to get hitched as Ramai and I have always “felt” married, but I have to say, sitting here with my husband six months in, it does feel different… in the best possible way. I couldn’t be more in love with this beautiful soul.

Read all about it:

+ R + R Get Married (Part 1)

+ R + R Get Married: The Ceremony (Part 2)

+ R + R Get Married: The Reception (Part 3) 

+ R + R Get Married: Party Time (Part 4) 

+ R + R Get Married: The Details (Part 5)  

B-School

 

Two days after our wedding I started Marie Forleo’s B-School, an eight week online business/ entrepreneurship course that, with absolutely-no-hyperbole-at-all, has changed my life.

I knew B-School would give me the push I needed to steer my ship in a new direction, but at the time, I wasn’t entirely sure when that would happen or how it would all unfold. I now know.

I started coaching with Susana who was my ‘accountability coach’ for several months and along the way, I’ve formed gorgeous friendships with inspiring (and aspiring) biz women in the B-School Facebook group. Again, total game-changer. One of the best decisions I’ve ever made.

+ Pop the champers, In Spaces Between also turned 1 in June (hooray!)

Hotel Weekend

 

Oh hi July.

First up was a relaxing winter weekend at QT Hotel, where we ate, drank delicious cocktails and I drifted off to heavenly place during a spa treatment at spaQ. Yum.

Read all about it:

+ A QT Weekend

The Village Markets Bloggers Breakfast

 

Later that month I joined a bunch of gorgeous Gold Coast/Brisbane bloggers (Lori from Eight. Ten. Ten; Jas from Fizzle Out; Liss from Daydream Lily; Ally from Unknown Pleasures; Jess from Konstantinos; Sammi from Chase Dakota; Sophie from Peppa Hart Bride; Carly from Mumma Electric) and our hosts, Marissa and Sarah from The Village Markets for a chilled out morning of eating, chatting, wandering and shopping.

Pretty much the perfect Sunday morning, no?

eBook

 

In August I released my first eBook, More Magic All the Time: 20 Ways to Create Your Best Life Ever which has found its way to the hands of 3000 peeps in the past four months.

I also created, with the help of Sian (who designed the eBook as well) a downloadable daily planner to help us all hone in on the most important stuff every day. Practicing gratitude is, of course, front and centre.

Both are yours for free so if you haven’t already got your copies:

Grab my eBook

+ Download the Make Magic Daily Planner

The Lifestyle Transformation Guide Featured Guest

 

Jess invited me to talk passion, balance, overwhelm and everything in between on video for her revolutionary wellness program, The Lifestyle Transformation Guide, which hit the interwebz in September.

Thrilled and honoured to have been part of such an incredible – and important – offering.

Read all about it: 

The Lifestyle Transformation Guide

Another Wedding

 

In September, I also got an insight into what it’s like to style someone else’s wedding (well, the putting-it-all-together part anyway, the overall look had already been created by Judi from Little Gray Station).

Read all about it:

+ Making Me Happy 

Cosmo Bride

 

Ahh October, the month our Big Day was featured in Cosmo Bride magazine!

Such a beautiful keepsake (for when we’re old and grey and our grandkids ask “What’s a magazine?”)

Problogger

 

I went back to Melbourne in October for the Problogger event, where I had a ball meeting a bunch of wonderful bloggy – and B-School – babes (and catching up with the gals I already know). I also met Sarah Wilson (stunning, smart as hell) and Chris Guillebeau (beyond lovely).

Read all about it:

+ Problogger Event 2012: The Full Wrap Up (Pt 1) 

Problogger Event 2012: The Full Wrap Up (Pt 2) 

Interviews

 

2012 was a big year for interviews (I’ve lost count but let’s just say there were many – which is awesome, because I love being interviewed!) but one of the highlights was popping up on Betty Means Business in October, a killer site run by a fellow B-Schooler.

Read all about it:

+ Making Me Happy {direct link to interview here}

Friendship

 

2012: The Year of Ze Woman. Or should that be, The Year of Soul-Rocking, Heart-Warming, Effing Excellent Friendships?

Either way, it’s been all about strong bonds and feminine power in my world this year. From special moments with my best friends, to deepening new friendships online and at my now-former job, I’ve often marvelled at how lucky I am to know so many ass-kicking, dream-chasing, wild-horses-wouldn’t-hold-me-back kinda women.

Connecting, collaborating and making a commitment to cheer each other on always is so, so powerful. Dear Universe, more of that in 2013 please!

Turning 30 + A Mini Break in Byron

 

Birthday month! November is always an exciting month for me and this year was no exception, particularly because this birthday was a special one – the Big 3-0.

On the brink of 30, everyone started telling me how your thirties are the best years, how you just “know” things that you previously would have doubted and how you care less about what others think and more about what feels right for you… and I have to say, it’s true! Turning 30 was a noticeable leap forward for me.

To celebrate me shimmying into a new decade, Ramai took me away on a holiday to a gorgeous beach house in Broken Head in Byron Bay for five days, and my nearest and dearest came down for a day ‘n’ night of good food, cocktails and dancing. Perfection.

Read all about it:

+ Thirty 

Kinesiology

 

I started seeing a kinesiologist (Anita Crosbie) in November which was definitely the catalyst for what happens next in my 2012 story.

From the first treatment, I learnt how out of harmony my energy was, where stress was impacting my body and the limiting beliefs that were keeping me in my comfort zone and away from living a completely aligned life.

Anita said “Things usually start happening pretty quickly after kinesiology” and ain’t that the truth, sista?! I was initially working towards leaving my full-time job sometime around May 2013, but a month after my first kinesy sesh I stepped into my boss’ office and handed him my resignation letter after 4.5 years with the company.

It was time.

Quitting My Full-Time Job + Starting a Business!

 

Which brings me to this point. Let me tell you about a week that will always stand out as one of those “defining weeks” in my life.

We’d come home from my Byron birthday festivities on the Monday and I went straight to my second kinesiology sesh. Jacked up on delicious energy, I raced home for my first coaching call with Julie Parker – who I’m thrilled will now be mentoring me on a longer-term basis – and by the end of the call I knew that I would be leaving my job before the year was out. It would be an extraordinary end to an extraordinary year and would allow me to regroup over the break and start 2013 fresh and with a new direction.

Julie said “There will never be a perfect time” and I tucked that truth in my pocket, spun it around in my head a few hundred times, and on the Wednesday, included a few lines in my newsletter to let you all know that I was taking “expressions of interest” for bright sparks wanting to work with me on a one-on-one basis.

By Friday, I had 30 clients locked and loaded, the majority for one and three month packages. Ta dah! A coaching biz was born!

I resigned the following Monday and the last few weeks have been a big ol’ swirl of action and ideas for a massive 2013. I’ve never felt so sure of anything and know that this is just the beginning of a thrilling ride.

And finally, 2012 had a whole lot of this…

 

Running, op shopping/ decanter collecting, green goodness, healthy treats, crafting, Burleigh love, 11:11, guidance, neon and succulents.

Thank you so much for your love and support and for being an integral part of the In Spaces Between community (and hey, kudos for making it to the end of this EPIC post!) 

2013: we will, we will ROCK YOU. We’ve got this.

Poster: Work is Not a Job


Making Me Happy

I’ve been doing some ‘Big Picture’ thinking lately and lovingly putting all areas of my life under the microscope to see what’s aligned, what’s out of whack, what I’m working towards, what I want to create and as I mentioned in my newsletter, how I want to feel.

I love diving deep with self-examination and I’ll write about my intentions for the rest of the year on a separate post, but I want to mention here – as a prelude to that post – that I think it’s so important to do these regular “check in’s” to see how satisfied you are with the various areas of your life. It can be a simple or detailed as you like – rank the key areas of your life from 1 – 10, ask yourself which ones need a little TLC and decide what action is needed to bolster the lowest ranked areas. Review, celebrate (your accomplishments, how far you’ve come) and clarify.

To give you a personal example, I’m not 100% satisfied with the ‘health’ area of my life at the moment, because being satisfied means cooking nourishing meals most nights of the week, eating salads for lunch daily and exercising/ moving my body in some way every day. They’re all out of alignment currently, and I gotta tell you, a lot of it is due to taking on too much work. I’ve let work barge its way in and take over, and without shining a light on this energy leak, it would have been very easy to coast along ‘as is,’ feeling sub-par and kind of off.

Thankfully, it all comes down to making a decision to change what’s not working. 

Today – and every day – I want to remind you (and me) that:

The time is now. The place is here. What comes next is totally up to you.

You deserve happiness, you deserve to be fulfilled in every area of your life. Look at your stories – who told you that nothing comes easy, that you have to sacrifice everything for your big dream?

Dialling down your power doesn’t serve anyone, beautiful. You’re a conduit, a high vibin,’ miracle magnet and YOU are in control.

And like the poster says, amongst other things, why don’t you go out and read some fine books and kiss someone who thinks you’re wonderful? Because you know what? You totally are.


Musings and pep ups aside, there’s been lots to get excited about this week so read on to discover what’s been lighting up my life of late…

Cosmo Bride

 

Look! Our Big Day, adorning the glossy pages of Cosmo Bride!

Super thrilled to have our wedding featured in the Summer edition of the only wedding mag I ever bought when we were going through the planning process. Definitely one to show the grandkids one day, eh?

Holidays

 

While I was in Melbourne, my hunk of a husband tackled three tasks that I have been procrastinating on hadn’t had time to get to – booking our honeymoon (Italy, we’ll be seeing you in May 2013!), locking down a five day getaway in Byron Bay for my 30th next month (my party will fall on the Saturday of said getaway) and on a less-exciting front, cleaning out the fridge.

Whatta man, whatta man, what a mighty good man.

Guest Posting

 

My name twin Rach from Little Bits of Lovely invited me over to her site last week to share the beauty products that are on high rotation for me right now. Head over for a peek inside my beauty cupboard.

Daily Inspiration

 

Don’t you love when awesome people create just the thing you’ve been waiting for? I was stoked when I heard Dani from Positively Present had released a shiny new offering, Stay Positive – a beautiful book loaded with every day reminders and musings for magical living. All 365 days of the year are covered and it’s broken up into monthly themes including Relationships, Self-Love, Motivation (and more).

This generous, uplifting offering has certainly brought me joy this week and I know I’ll be referring back to it many a time. One to leave on the desk at work, for sure.

Thongs!

 

And not that type of thong, my American friends. No one loves thongs that much… except maybe Sisqo.

One guess what I’ll be living in this summer?

Mexican Beach Blanket

 

Speaking of summer and to continue the colour theme, our new Mexi beach blanket arrived yesterday from a fantastic company I discovered recently, Hammock Heaven (website + ebay). I’ve been chatting with the owner Ana over email and she’s a total sweetheart. Good service makes all the difference.

I adore pulling this post together every week. I’ve said it before and I’ll invariably spout it off ’til the end of time – drawing attention to the goodness that exists in our lives is so incredibly powerful. ‘Things’ become more than just a purchase, they represent something that adds beauty to our world. ‘Words’ become more than words, they become sustenance for our soul. A sunny day is more than ‘just another day’ – it’s something to be marvelled at, a blessing to be celebrated.

Find the joy in a smile from the stranger at the supermarket or the good news shared by a friend.. and of course, get your list happening in the comments below. I’m hanging to hear what’s rocked you this week!

Image: rocketrictic


Making Me Happy

If you’ve been reading In Spaces Between for a while you’ll know that at the start of the year I defined some words to live by for 2012. When I sat down and really thought about the words I wanted to guide me this year, the ones that really spoke to me were as follows (with descriptions of how I planned to apply them to my life):

ALIGN

This year, I’ll align:

Myself: with change agents, creative mentors, dynamos with big ideas and lots of spirit (who’ll jam with me and insist that I dig deep).
My vision: crystal clear, razor-sharp.
My passions: a conscious choice to expend my energy on the stuff that really lights me up.
Myself: to my raison d’être.

EASE

‘Ease’ serves as reminder to inhale deeply, lower the pressure and ease up on myself when my body calls for time out.

AMPLIFY

Amplify is a bold word. Consider this my official declaration: I’m crankin’ the freakin’ dial up in 2012 (a bazillion decibels!)

After digging out the post the other day and evaluating where I’m at right now, I realised that those intention-laden guiding principles I set back in January have absolutely manifested in my life the way I imagined they would.

Through B-School and this blog, I’ve aligned myself with soulful sistas with big ideas and even bigger hearts. When it comes to ease, I’ve known when I need to pull back and (mostly) I’ve listened and slowed down. Life has been amplified on all levels – my bloggy baby has stretched and evolved, opportunities to spread my message have abounded, blessings have rolled in and our wedding was everything we dreamed it would be.

Checking in has warmed and comforted me, especially since my big focus this week was taking the foot off the accelerator and honing in on that potent word: EASE. Here’s how it all unfolded…

Country Love

 

Ramai and I have officially reached the age where “going for a drive” is considered a pretty sweet way to spend the day. Ohyeahwehave.

On Saturday, we jumped in the car and headed out to Birrell Creek near Mt Warning (past Murwillumbah/ Uki in Northern NSW) for the housewarming of our friends Danny and Olly and let me just say, a freaking fantastic day was had by all.

Along with their little boy, Danny and Olly live in the house below (epic or what?) and the incredible location, coupled with the fact the weather was absolutely breathtaking, had me daydreaming about writing books in a cute writer’s cottage tucked away in the mountains, where chickens roam free and a fires smoulder away in winter. Simply divine.

(that’s the side of Mt Warning above – anyone who has ever done the hike knows just how amazing the views are in the area).

Ramai’s mate Benny (above) – who actually owns the house that was being ‘warmed’ – also took the two of us on a little off road adventure, across rocky creeks and up steep dirt road inclines which reminded me of going to my Uncle’s property in Hamilton, Victoria when I was a kid.

All that fresh air and greenery and walking through the bush and getting dirty took me back right back to the memories of riding Pee Wee 50 motorbikes with my cousins and crashing out in bed early after running around the paddocks all day. Some of my favourite times, in fact.

What I Learnt:

My outdoorsy weekend, and having no phone reception for almost a full day (!!) shone a light on the undeniable fact that I’ve been spending far too much time on the computer every weekend, which is something I’m going to be really conscious of this summer. My productivity at work on Monday after disconnecting for most of the weekend and the deep sense of happiness I felt after our day ‘in the sticks’ is incentive enough.

I guess there’s a reason why Saturday and Sunday are referred to as the WEEK END. Light and shade, work and play – a delicate balancing act.

Above: That’s cutie pie Asher. Gorgeousness personified.

Below: Love these pics. It’s like Ramai and his lover Benny are on their summer vacation.

Sunnies, Sunnies, Sunnies!

 

Top: Ksubi. Bottom left: Sportsgirl. Bottom right: Retro Superfuture – Ramai’s sunnies that he’s decided he doesn’t like anymore. WIN!

My interest in fashion waxes and wanes in a way – I mean, don’t get me wrong, I love stylish wares and am quite partial to a shopping spree (ahem) but sometimes I’m just not that interested. My brain tends to oscillate between loves and obsessions on a regular basis so while I go through phases where I feel like deleting whole sections of my Google Reader (for instance, the fashion blog section), a month later I find myself inextricably drawn to that very category. Yes, I’m a strange, strange child. I’m also a Sagittarian. I hope that explains things.

Anyway, I woke up the other day feeling a major urge to surf the net and immerse myself in pretty things. Surface stuff, easy, light, “Pinteresting”, eyes-bulging-from-the-beauty kinda net surfing. It was as if after months of being “all-in” with my biz course and ebook and writing, the visual side of my brain wanted out… and before I knew it, she was kicking off her heels and indulging in a vodka cocktail and a mani pedi (who am I to stop such pursuits?)

So what does this have to do with sunglasses? Well, I happen to have a slight penchant for sunnies, simply because I think they’re an easy way to ‘make’ a look. I’m a one bag gal but when it comes to sunnies, I mix ‘n’ match with glee, so you can see how it wasn’t my fault that a pair of Karen Walker sunnies found their way into the cart as well as these Sportsgirl el cheapo’s. You know where to come if you ever need to borrow a pair of shades. Just call me The Shady Lady.

PS: my friend below wanted to stop by and say HAI LADIES!

Getting Juiced

 

Maxo-energy and good vibes all round – what’s not to love? Seriously never get sick of this stuff. Are you a green goblin too?

Magnificent Morsels:

Pulling together my How to Start a Blog series (look out for some great guest interviews!) + a chilled glass of wine at the computer + goodies in the mail + funny future life convo’s with my love + “Mexicrinkles” + casting my eyes forward to my 30th birthday in November (seriously need to start planning some sort of celebration) + this video for making me feel all patriotic + date night and The Bourne Legacy + super productivity at work + my guest post on The Wellness Warrior 4 Soulful Ways to Support Yourself When Life Gets Crazy – I feel so blessed to hang in Jess’s shiny corner of the web + seeing my girls kicking ass. Like majorly. I’m like a proud mama.

“Sometimes I need only to stand wherever I am to be blessed.” | Mary Oliver

And that’s me! Simple pleasures, a spot of shopping, energy-giving green goodness and sloooooowing down and relishing every day.

+ What’s your greatest joy right now? What are you thankful for? You know the drill babe, share away in the comments below!

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Rapid-Fire Wisdom for Some of Your Biggest Challenges

“I’m stuck, lost, in need of direction. I know what I want but how do I get there?”

You know what living a magnificent life means for you? It’s following the blazing inspiration that’s alight in your heart and seeing it through from start to heavenly end. I’m talking about your vision, your genius, the dazzling gifts bestowed upon you. You know, your birthright.

I know it can appear hard to get yourself ‘there’ because ‘there’ seems like this far-off place where magical things happen and spirits fly free – no longer compromised or buried inside meaningless living – but I want you to comfort yourself with the fact that instead of tackling the whole 1000-piece puzzle at once, it’s okay to simply connect the bottom corner to the next piece. And then add a piece after that. And maybe another when the spirit moves you.

Great whopping books are written word by word, page by page, just like houses are built brick by brick. You could do worse than adopt the same lead when it comes to The Reason You’re Here on Earth.

“If you follow your bliss, you put yourself on a kind of track that has been there all the while, waiting for you, and the life that you ought to be living is the one you are living. Wherever you are — if you are following your bliss, you are enjoying that refreshment, that life within you, all the time.” ~ Joseph Campbell

“I’m scared of going it alone… and I’m scared of admitting that.”

Courageous transitions call for support so:

Forget this: it’s shameful and weak to ask for help; and

Know this: asking for help is powerful. It’s clever and brilliant and invites ease into your life, allowing you feel held and present while you focus on your soul’s work.

“How do I know if it’s right for me?”

Simply tune in to your deepest intuition, your inner whisper, the oracle inside that just… knows.

“We often hesitate to follow our intuition out of fear. Most usually, we are afraid of the changes in our own life that our actions will bring. Intuitive guidance, however, is all about change. It is energetic data ripe with the potential to influence the rest of the world. To fear change but to crave intuitive clarity is like fearing the cold, dark night while pouring water on the fire that lights your cave. An insight the size of a mustard seed is powerful enough to bring down a mountain-sized illusion that may be holding our lives together. Truth strikes without mercy. We fear our intuitions because we fear the transformational power within our revelations.” ~ Caroline Myss

When you learn to not only hear that soft, true and valid voice within, but to trust it completely, everything shifts. Call a committee meeting with your inner wisdom today.

“It feels like I’m constantly pushing. Why is everything I do so goddamn hard?”

Stop doing the things that kill your energy. If you let it die, it will die. Pleasedontletitdie.

“How do I stop feeling inadequate, not good enough?”

Left to her own devices, your inner critic is a bit of a bitch. She’ll show up unannounced when you’re feeling vulnerable or out of your comfort zone and dish up her own special brand of noxious nonsense, just ’cause she can. Just ’cause she knows you’ll cop it.

Protect your tender self and examine all the facts. Are they true? Really? Really?

Decide whether you’re going to allow your limiting beliefs, or the echo of your parents or your boss or whoever else you’re holding in a place of authority, keep you from shining like the luminous beacon of light you are. Write your fears and doubts and murkiest thoughts on paper to take the first step in releasing them. There are outrageously beautiful qualities inside you. Blaze.

“But… it’s not perfect.”

Good news: nothing is. Perfection is a myth. What’s admirable is that you are infinitely and actively growing, loving and evolving. Even when you fail miserably and publicly. Even when your thing isn’t tuned and preened within an inch of its life.

Instead of striving to be perfect, take heed of Tony Robbins advice and aim instead to be a sublimely flawed human being.

“Live life fully while you’re here. Experience everything. Take care of yourself and your friends. Have fun, be crazy, be weird. Go out and screw up! You’re going to anyway so you might as well enjoy the process. Take the opportunity to learn from your mistakes: find the cause of your problem and eliminate it. Don’t try to be perfect. Just be an example of being human.”

Sky-high expectations and crippling doubts – we won’t be needing your services anymore. Thank you anyway.

“I’m kinda awkward, a bit weird. How do I fit in?”

Embrace what makes you different. I was thinking about the things I’ll never be recently. I’ll never be totally conservative because although on the whole I can be quiet obedient, there’s this part of me that likes to rebel. I’ll never be a hard-hitting journalist, because I’m not into confrontation. I’ll never wear Peter Pan collars and collect vintage oil paintings and cute owl trinkets because that’s not MY style. There are people that do all that and be all that (I know and love those people), with far more spunk than I ever could. What I’m left to step into is my own authenticity.

I want you to know – hand-on-heart – that your (self-diagnosed) awkwardness or the things that are different and vulnerable are no doubt the things the world loves most about you. Come alive being fabulously you.

“What if I fail?”

Sometimes we resist the things we know are good for us because we’re afraid of who we’ll become. Thing is though gorgeous, worry is like a prayer for something bad to happen.

If you fail, you’ll pick yourself back up again. If you falter, you’ll eventually find your way – or another way. Leave the small stuff behind and promise us you’ll play bigger.

Other random mind-benders and flipped and dipped perspectives:

1 // Life happens for you – not to you.

2 // Instead of “having to do all these things” you “get to do all these things.”

3 // The only permission you need is your own.

4 // Struggles are our defining moments.

5// Ali Brown (via Denise Duffield-Thomas) asks: “What would millionaire {your name} do?” So, what would millionaire you do? Millionaire you would book it/ do it/ take it/ leave it/ launch at it. Consider yourself nudged.

6// It’s OK to pull back from the world. And as long as you know that ‘wherever you go, there you are’ it’s totally OK to hightail it out of here for a while. A change in location will annihilate blockages like nobody’s biz.

7// When you’re exceptionally busy and stressed and over it, be of service. Taking the focus off your own issues is guaranteed to mellow the madness.

8// And it’s worth reminding yourself that sometimes, just sometimes, not getting what you want can be the biggest blessing of all.

The inspiration for this post came from the questions I asked on Facebook a few days ago: “What are you struggling with? What’s grinding your gears, stealing your spark, putting a big ol’ dampener on things?” It also comes from conversations and emails and the things that crop up in my own life. These are universal conundrums, felt by us all.

+ If you didn’t get a chance to share your challenges on Facebook, I encourage you to let them unfurl here.

+ Let’s get share-y: what works for you when you’re going through a rough patch? Unleash your tips/ advice/ shiny nuggets of wisdom below.

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