First Time for Everything: An In Spaces Between Video!

Well hello there! I hope you’ve all had a spectacular little weekend.

I’ve been busy making my first (very unpolished) video for In Spaces Between which I’ll give you a chance to watch for yourself below.


1. Speaking into the camera on a laptop is a very strange thing. VERY. The words “complete” and “doofus” spring to mind…

2. On that, it really is quite bizarre watching and listening to yourself on video. Is that what my voice sounds like? I really AM a fidgety person! Am I making sense? All thoughts I had watching this one back – but you know what? It can only get better from here!

3. Connie’s site is A Life of Perfect Days, as mentioned. Clickety click.

4. I have no idea how to use iMovie, and my man just came in the door from his gigantic weekend in Melbourne for his bucks party and is in no state to help me. Current status: asleep on the couch. So excuse the “rawness” of my movie debut (and if anyone knows how to minimise the significant reduction in quality once the movie is uploaded to YouTube, I’m all ears!)

5. I’m not sure if I made it sound a little dramatic, as if I wouldn’t be blogging at all over the next two months, but I wanted to assure you that I certainly will be stopping in (and perhaps fine-tuning my video producing skills), just not as regularly. Only for now.

I’d love to hear your thoughts, and like I said in the video, please drop me a line if you have any questions and I’ll work out some sort of format for this as we progress. I love trying new things, so let’s just see how it all unfolds shall we? x

Run Your Own Race

Ever felt that ego-fuelled desire to be acknowledged? The crippling fear of not being good enough?

But of course. We all have. And much to (what I presume is) our collective dismay, it turns out this paralysing pair are going to rear their heads every once in a while, so I thought it was about time we chatted a little about the ‘competition and comparison trap’ – the times when you lose sight of ‘you’ (glorious, brilliant, you!) because someone else’s glittering lights seem to be outshining and out-twinkling the ones lighting your own backyard.

The Seedy Underbelly of Comparison

When you’re pushing to run someone else’s race – and you’ll know when you’re pushing because there will be this booming echo that tells you you’re not even close – you stop believing in your own delicious worth.

You neutralise your power.

You spend so much time keeping up and trying to be seen that your energy is maxed out on what the competition is doing rather than what you want for yourself. Rather than igniting your greatness, you cede your creative energy focusing on the moves everyone else is making and forgetting that you have these gargantuan, outrageously beautiful qualities inside you that are literally begging to be released.

Confidence Zapping, Limited Living

If that’s not enough, another disastrous thing about using others as your yardstick is that it automatically places a limit on your success.

Think about it for a minute. When you’re hell-for-leather running someone else’s race, is it Obama or Madonna or Oprah you’re comparing yourself to? Not likely. Sure, you might draw inspiration from these (essentially) untouchable idols, but you’re rarely wedging your success right up against theirs by means of comparison.

What’s more likely is that you’re comparing yourself to the girl in the office that just got the promotion you were certain you had in the bag, or the blogger who has you sea-green with envy because they’re freakin’ eve-ry-where, or the skinny girl at the gym that always gets the guy/ the friend that only buys designer/ the one who’s running an ultra-successful business while you’re stuck hammering it out in corporate cubicle hell.

Whatever the dilemma, every time you compare your life to someone else’s life or hinge your happiness on the approval of others, you’re giving away your authentic power to consciously create more splendour in that exquisite life of yours. And it’s a vicious cycle – the more you give it away, the more insecure you feel.

Enough is Enough!


I want you know that you, my darling, are a precious flower and your gifts are needed longed for in this world. PLEASE: never, ever forget that the world is gunning for you to succeed.

I have a little wish – well, actually, it’s more of a hope – and it is that, starting now, you will:

Be a leader, not a follower. Focus on your own self-improvement, show up and give it. Give them you – delightful quirks and all.

Focus on what is astounding, unique, revolutionary, downright awesome about you and the super special way YOU do it. Your own power is already there. That certain j’ne sais qoui you have? All yours. No one else can share this genius with the world. We’re all counting on you to innovate and unleash… so please – go do it.

In your saddest and most triggered moments, you might feel you have nothing to offer the world, but this ain’t true sista. Look at feelings as messages from your soul. Your feelings tell you where you need to make adjustments, to love yourself or to flip your perspective to uncover the lesson in the situation. Dig. And dig some more.

Celebrate other people’s “bigness.” William Hazlitt said: “Just as much as we see in others, we have in ourselves,” so tuck that thought in your pocket and remember that as you applaud the achievements of others, you’re inviting that same energy into your own life. This is a glimpse of what can be possible for you. From a place of gratitude, count your blessings that the world is filled with so many talented people that continually inspire you to rise up and S H I N E.

And above all, remember that the only real competitor you should ever have is yourself.

There’s room enough in this big, wide world for all of us to shine brightly and boldly. Take a deep breath and stand in your power. There’s only one YOU and let it be said – you are perfect just the way you are! 

A couple of q’s (let’s get share-y!) 

+ Have you ever come up against feelings of jealously/ resentment/ wishing your life was as perfect as (what you perceived) someone else’s to be? What triggered it, and what did you do to move past those feelings of ‘lack’ or ‘inadequacy?’

I’d love to hear your thoughts on all this. These feelings are universal, affecting every one of us, and as I said above, they often act as mirrors, reflecting back at us any changes we need to make. What advice would you give someone feeling the burn of comparison? Share the lessons you’ve learned and how you started running your own race again in the comments below!

Images: Mister Sullivan | Ana Cabaleiro 

In Honour of Love, Truth + Beauty: 56 Rare Quotes That Will Change The Way You Live Your Life!

I adore inspiring words and have always collected quotes and truisms, scribbling them in my diary or emailing them off to friends who were searching for some solace or simply to be uplifted. There’s something about a poignant, well-articulated string of words that really makes sense of the world around us.

Motivating quotes are omnipresent these days and I don’t know about you, but I must admit I glaze over when I see the same old quotes being used repeatedly on posters or blog posts – which is why I’ve been spending time compiling the list below for the past three weeks, adding my favourites slowly but surely as they flew into my radar.

I hope some of these ignite a fire within you and help you look at life with shining eyes and love in your heart. Please feel free to spread this list around (using the social sharing buttons below) and add to it in the comments.

I understand you might not get through reading them all now but it’s my hope you’ll bookmark this post to refer back to next time you need a big kiss from someone who has been there, done that before. Enjoy lovelies! x

On Writing



“All you have to do is write one true sentence. Write the truest sentence that you know.” | ERNEST HEMINGWAY

“The most important things are the hardest to say. They are the things you get ashamed of, because words diminish them — words shrink things that seemed limitless when they were in your head to no more than living size when they’re brought out. But it’s more than that, isn’t it? The most important things lie too close to wherever your secret heart is buried, like landmarks to a treasure your enemies would love to steal away. And you may make revelations that cost you dearly only to have people look at you in a funny way, not understanding what you’ve said at all, or why you thought it was so important that you almost cried while you were saying it. That’s the worst, I think. When the secret stays locked within not for want of a teller but for want of an understanding ear.” | STEPHEN KING

“Writing practice brings us back to the uniqueness of our own minds and an acceptance of it. We all have wild dreams, fantasies, and ordinary thoughts. Let us to feel the texture of them and not be afraid of them. Writing is still the wildest thing I know.” | NATALIE GOLDBERG

“Don’t tell me the moon is shining; show me the glint of light on broken glass.” | ANTON CHEKHOV

“Writing and reading decrease our sense of isolation. They deepen and widen and expand our sense of life: they feed the soul. When writers make us shake our heads with the exactness of their prose and their truths, and even make us laugh about ourselves or life, our buoyancy is restored. We are given a shot at dancing with, or at least clapping along with, the absurdity of life, instead of being squashed by it over and over again. It’s like singing on a boat during a terrible storm at sea. You can’t stop the raging storm, but singing can change the hearts and spirits of the people who are together on that ship.” | ANNE LAMOTT

“We write to taste life twice, in the moment and in retrospect.” | ANAIS NIN

On Love + Relationships



“And when you appear all the rivers sound in my body, bells shake the sky, and a hymn fills the world.” | PABLO NERUDA

“The minute I heard my first love story I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was. Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along.” | RUMI

“This is the miracle that happens every time to those who really love: the more they give, the more they possess.” | RAINER MARIA RILKE

“Love – not dim and blind but so far-seeing that it can glimpse around corners, around bends and twists and illusion; instead of overlooking faults love sees through them to the secret inside.” | VERA NAZARIAN

“We are not held back by the love we didn’t receive in the past, but by the love we’re not extending in the present.” | MARIANNE WILLIAMSON

“When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares.” | HENRI J.M. NOUWEN

“Love brings you face to face with your self. It’s impossible to love another if you cannot love yourself.” | JOHN PIERRAKOS

“When I’m being love, I don’t get drained, and I don’t need people to behave a certain way in order to feel cared for or to share my magnificence with them. They’re automatically getting my love as a result of me being my true self.” | ANITA MORJANI

“Love is what we are born with. Fear is what we learn. The spiritual journey is the unlearning of fear and prejudices and the acceptance of love back in our hearts. Love is the essential reality and our purpose on earth. To be consciously aware of it, to experience love in ourselves and others, is the meaning of life. Meaning does not lie in things. Meaning lies in us.” | MARIANNE WILLIAMSON

“There are several kinds of love. One is a selfish, mean, grasping, egotistical thing which uses love for self-importance. This is the ugly and crippling kind.  The other is an outpouring of everything good in you – of kindness and consideration and respect – not only the social respect of manners but the greater respect which is recognition of another person as unique and valuable. The first kind can make you sick and small and weak but the second can release in you strength, and courage and goodness and even wisdom you didn’t know you had.” | JOHN STEINBECK

“The point of marriage is not to create a quick commonality by tearing down all boundaries; on the contrary, a good marriage is one in which each partner appoints the other to be the guardian of his solitude, and thus they show each other the greatest possible trust. A merging of two people is an impossibility, and where it seems to exist, it is a hemming-in, a mutual consent that robs one party or both parties of their fullest freedom and development. But once the realisation is accepted that even between the closest people infinite distances exist, a marvelous living side-by-side can grow up for them, if they succeed in loving the expanse between them, which gives them the possibility of always seeing each other as a whole and before an immense sky.” | RAINER MARIA RILKE

On Life



“When it’s over, I want to say: all my life I was a bride married to amazement. I was the bridegroom, taking the world into my arms. When it is over, I don’t want to wonder if I have made of my life something particular, and real. I don’t want to find myself sighing and frightened, or full of argument. I don’t want to end up simply having visited this world.” | MARY OLIVER

“You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.” | STEVE JOBS

“Let life happen to you. Believe me: life is in the right, always.” | RAINER MARIA RILKE

“Light is in both the broken bottle and the diamond.” | MARK NEPO

”Remember that everyone you meet is afraid of something, loves something, and has lost something.” | H. JACKSON BROWN JR.

“Live your questions now, and perhaps even without knowing it, you will live along some distant day into your answers.” | RAINER MARIA RILKE

“The bad news: there is no key to the universe. The good news: it was never locked.” | SWAMI BEYONDANANDA

“Don’t step into lives that aren’t yours, make choices that aren’t nourishing, or dance stiffly for years with the wrong partner, or parts of yourself.” | SARK

“To live in this world, you must be able to do three things: to love what is mortal; to hold it against your bones knowing your own life depends on it; and, when the time comes to let it go, to let it go” | MARY OLIVER  

On Truth, Beauty + Empowerment



“Follow your inner moonlight; don’t hide the madness.” | ALLEN GINSBERG

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” | MARIANNE WILLIAMSON

“The truth you believe and cling to makes you unavailable to hear anything new.” | PEMA CHODRON 

“Whatever truth we feel compelled to withhold, no matter how unthinkable it is to imagine ourselves telling it, not to is a way of spiritually holding our breath. You can only do it for so long.” | MARK NEPO

“I can’t stop pointing to the beauty.” | RUMI

“Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.” | MARTIN LUTHER KING JR.

“All emotions are pure which gather you and lift you up; that emotion is impure which seizes only one side of your being and so distorts you.” | RAINER MARIA RILKE

“Mysteriously, as elusive as it is, this moment – where the eye is what it sees, where the heart is what it feels – this moment shows us that what is real is sacred.” | MARK NEPO

“A ‘No’ uttered from the deepest conviction is better than a ‘Yes’ merely uttered to please, or worse, to avoid trouble.” | MAHATMA GANDHI

“Everyone has this giant, luminous being that is their true self… Everyone is a sleeping giant, so to speak, waiting to hear the call, waiting to surrender to it, waiting to act on it. We’ve gotten caught up in thinking we are what we look like, the physical, the exterior. We think we’re the lamp shade. We’ve forgotten that we are the light—the electricity and the luminosity that lights up every man, woman, and child. The light is who we truly are.” | MICHAEL BERNARD BECKWITH

“Nourish your eye and spirit with inspiring things. They will bloom with your tending.” | SARK

“There is so much about my fate that I cannot control, but other things do fall under the jurisdiction. I can decide how I spend my time, whom I interact with, whom I share my body and life and money and energy with. I can select what I can read and eat and study. I can choose how I’m going to regard unfortunate circumstances in my life-whether I will see them as curses or opportunities. I can choose my words and the tone of voice in which I speak to others. And most of all, I can choose my thoughts.” | ELIZABETH GILBERT

On Falling Down… + Getting Up Again


”Failure is the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.” | HENRY FORD 

“Here’s what I think,” I say and my voice is stronger and thoughts are coming, thoughts that trickle into my noise like whispers of truth. “I think maybe everybody falls,” I say. “I think maybe we all do. And I don’t think that’s the asking.”  I pull on her arms gently to make sure she’s listening. “I think the asking is whether we get back up again.” | PATRICK NESS

“Emotional discomfort, when accepted, rises, crests and falls in a series of waves. Each wave washes a part of us away and deposits treasures we never imagined. Out goes naivete, in comes wisdom; out goes anger, in comes discernment; out goes despair, in comes kindness. No one would call it easy, but the rhythm of emotional pain that we learn to tolerate is natural, constructive and expansive… The pain leaves you healthier than it found you.” | MARTHA BECK

On Giving + Gratitude


“There shall be an eternal summer in the grateful heart.” | CELIA THAXTER

“The roots of all goodness lie in the soil of appreciation for goodness.” | DALAI LAMA

“The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.” | MAHATMA GANDHI

“Hello, sun in my face. Hello, you who made the morning and spread it over the fields and into the faces of the tulips and the nodding morning glories, and into the windows of, even, the miserable and the crotchety – best preacher that ever was, dear star, that just happens to be where you are in the universe to keep us from ever-darkness, to ease us with warm touching, to hold us in the great hands of light – good morning, good morning, good morning. Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness.” | MARY OLIVER

My Dear, I am writing this to remind you of your ‘essence beauty.’ This is the part of you that has nothing to do with age, occupation, weight, history, or pain. This is the soft, untouched, indelible you. You can love yourself in this moment, no matter what you have, or haven’t done or been.   See past any masks, devices, or inventions that obscure your essence. Remember your true purpose, which is only Love. If you cannot see or feel love, lie down now and cry; it will cleanse your vision and free your heart.   I love you; I am you.” | SARK

“In the end, though, maybe we must all give up trying to pay back the people in this world who sustain our lives. In the end, maybe it’s wiser to surrender before the miraculous scope of human generosity and to just keep saying thank you, forever and sincerely, for as long as we have voices.” | ELIZABETH GILBERT

On Dreaming + Doing


“Man’s mind stretched to a new idea never goes back to its original dimensions.” | OLIVER WENDELL HOLMES 

“Why dream? Life is a difficult assignment. We are fragile creatures, expected to function at high rates of speed, and asked to accomplish great and small things each day. These daily activities take enormous amounts of energy. Most things are out of our control. We are surrounded by danger, frustration, grief, and insanity as well as love, hope, ecstasy, and wonder. Being fully human is an exercise in humility, suffering, grace, and great humor. Things and people all around us die, get broken, or are lost. There is no safety or guarantees.   The way to accomplish the assignment of truly living is to engage fully, richly, and deeply in the living of your dreams. We are made to dream and to live those dreams.” | SARK

“Whatever you do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius and power and magic in it.” | GOETHE

“A man sooner or later discovers that he is the master-gardener of his soul, the director of his life.” | JAMES ALLEN

“If you follow your bliss, you put yourself on a kind of track that has been there all the while, waiting for you, and the life you ought to be living is the one you are living. When you can see that, you begin to meet people who are in the field of your bliss, and they open doors to you. Follow your bliss and don’t be afraid and doors will open where you didn’t know they were going to be.” | JOSEPH CAMPBELL

“You do not have to be good. You do not have to walk on your knees for a hundred miles through the desert repenting. You only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves. Tell me about despair, yours, and I will tell you mine. Meanwhile the world goes on. Meanwhile the sun and the clear pebbles of the rain are moving across the landscapes, over the prairies and the deep trees, the mountains and the rivers. Meanwhile the wild geese, high in the clean blue air, are heading home again. Whoever you are, no matter how lonely, the world offers itself to your imagination, calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting over and over announcing your place in the family of things.” | MARY OLIVER

“The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.” | JOSEPH CAMPBELL

“Never stop dreaming of moonbeams and fairy dust, shiny stars and the wonder of the heavens, a happier life and a better world.” | JAMES J. GORMLEY

“Here’s to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the round pegs in the square holes… the ones who see things differently — they’re not fond of rules… You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them, but the only thing you can’t do is ignore them because they change things… they push the human race forward, and while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius, because the ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do.” | STEVE JOBS

Further words on art, alchemy + amplification:

+ 101 Inspirational Quotes to Light Up Your Life from Always Well Within

+ 75 Most Empowering, Inspirational Quotes for Sassy, Kick-Ass Women from Your Life YOUR Way

+ What’s your all-time favourite quote, or mantra you live your life by? What’s your pick from the above?

Images: All Anne He except second top image (We Heart It).

Change Your Stories

Have you noticed how people who say “I always lose my keys” always lose their keys?

Or how people who complain about never having any money, never have any money?

What about the girl that says she’s a magnet for bad guys, and winds up with the same type of (bad) guy, time and time again?

Where the mind goes, energy flows. The stories you tell yourself become your life.

Change Your Stories, Change Your Life


WHAT IF: Instead of being late for everything, you became the girl that showed up ten minutes early – composed, centred, confident and ready to blow people’s minds with your inherent wisdom and infectious energy?

WHAT IF: Instead of moaning “Knowing my luck, {insert sucky thing} will happen,” you started the day with a heartfelt thanks for the dazzling miracles in your life – and watched on in awe as they began to multiply/ quadruple/ explode in every direction?

WHAT IF: Instead of letting insecurity dictate your life, you put a stop to the madness today and started living the big, bold, beautiful life you’ve always dreamed of?

WHAT IF: You celebrated your magnificence, honoured your wildest desires, took the leap, forged ahead, trusted, expected the best possible result – and suddenly, the fear that was holding you back and sabotaging your attempts to shine completely dissipated?

We are all creators. We create our lives every day. Accepting that you are the author of your own stories brings with it the understanding that you have the power to write yourself the life of your dreams. 

As you go about your business, think about whether your stories need a bit of editing.

What new stories can you tell yourself today that will shape your thoughts, dreams and way you live your life in the future?

+ If you liked this post, I’d be forever grateful if you could share on Facebook or Twitter using the social sharing buttons below!

Image: The Wheatfield on Etsy

The Power of One

“Do one thing at a time, and while doing it put your whole soul into it to the exclusion of all else.” ~ Swami Vivekananda

How many things are you simultaneously juggling right now?

At last check, I had six windows open on my computer. I be togglin.’ My messages are open on my phone so I won’t forget to reply to a friend (oh, hold up, I actually did forget to reply to someone earlier). I’m thinking about a blog post for next week. Should I spend today (the Australia Day public holiday) on the computer or making wedding decorations? I really need to get to the Post Office tomorrow to buy stamps for our invites. What about that e-book and blog redesign – practically, could I get them done in the first half of the year? Yes? Maybe? Who knows. Oh gosh, Dad, how long has it been since I called my Dad? The weekend – what’s on this weekend? Baby shower! A friend’s baby shower and a first birthday and I don’t have presents for either. Yikes.

Welcome to my brain. What a hoot. Sound like you too?

The truth is, a lot of us are maxing capacity right now. Our focus is off because we’re rushing/ toggling/ over-exerting/ adrenal-zapping all over the place and sadly, we’re often doing ourselves an injustice trying to do more than humanly possible in totally unrealistic carriages of time. It’s exhausting.

Here’s a proposal: 

Why don’t we get all wild and rambunctious and flip things on their head for a bit? What if, instead of doing a legion of things half-heartedly, we made the decision to hone in on one important thing every day, and committed – no matter what – to getting it done?

Revolutionary? Too simplistic? Impossibilité? Not if it’s taking you closer to achieving your long-term goals and making you happy and more fulfilled in the process.

Here’s the deal:

FOR SELF-ACTUALISATION: Define one important long-term goal and work on it for an hour every day.

Pull out your diary and have a good look at your goals. If you were told you could only choose one of them to focus for the rest of the year, which would it be?

I’ve started putting a number priority beside the tasks on my daily to-do list (1 is obviously the Most Pressing Thing and 10 is the Can Probably Wait stuff) which I’ve found to be really helpful to ensure I don’t get struck down with the dreaded Overwhelm.

Try doing this with your goals list until you identify the one goal that you’d most like to achieve in 2012 – then start chipping away at it, bit by bit. It’s as easy as that. 60 minutes a day for 365 days is equal to 21,900 minutes, or 365 hours, spent working on your exceptional goal every year.

Pretty impressive when you put like that, huh?

FOR GROWTH + INSPIRATION: Read/ watch/ listen to one thing that inspires you every day.

If you can, do this first thing as there’s nothing better than starting the day listening to an inspiring podcast, watching an awesome video online or reading a thought-provoking blog post that really gets the cogs churning.

My favourite resources:

Oprah’s Lifeclass videos

+ Cheryl Richardson’s podcasts. Cheryl interviews provocative thinkers whose work is changing the world in some way in her free podcasts (search her name in iTunes to find the list) and they’re super inspiring. My favourites are the interviews with Natalie Goldberg (author of one of my favourite books on writing ‘Bird by Bird), Louise Hay and Jackie Collins.

+ Gabrielle Bernstein’s podcasts and guided meditations – also free on iTunes – and her brilliant videos.

+ TED Talks (scintillating stuff!) My faves are Elizabeth Gilbert’s talk on nurturing creativity and Brene Brown’s incredible talk on vulnerability and wholeheartedness.

FOR EDUCATION + ENLIGHTENMENT: Read one chapter of a good book every day.

If you’re anything like me and order new books like ink and paper stores are about to be completely annihilated, you’re probably a touch overwhelmed by the growing stack on your nightstand. No time, too many to get through, why bother starting – and all that jazz.

It’s all about chunking. Reading one chapter a day of a book with 15 chapters will have you finishing it in just over two weeks, and I don’t know about you, but that seems pretty manageable to me. There’s something insanely satisfying about holding a finished book in your hands and displaying it proudly on your bookshelf, so if you’re a book-fiend like me, make a little time to immerse yourself in those pages. Books open doors, in your mind and in your life.

FOR HEALTH + WELLNESS: Allocate one hour of ‘you time.’

Whether it’s to exercise, cook an amazing meal bursting with nutrients, meditation time, stretching out on the yoga mat, doing a top-to-toe beauty blitz, or doing whatever else replenishes your energy stores and brings harmony to your life, commit to it. It doesn’t have to be all at once – you might break your hour into halves or quarters – but it’s so necessary. We all spend a large portion of our time meeting the needs of others and it’s so incredibly important we pay ourselves the same respect.

FOR POSITIVITY + MAGIC-MAKING: Write down one thing to be grateful for every day. 

You might have noticed in my Making Me Happy posts that (on average) I post about seven things that have really stood out for me over the prior week. That’s the equivalent of one blessing per day, and I think we can all agree, on even the darkest of days, there’s always something (no matter how tiny) that we can send the universe a little ‘thank you’ for.

I loved reading back on my gratitude lists from last year when I was pulling together my 2011 in Review post and I can’t speak highly enough about documenting your daily joy. Added up over a year, that’s a shipload of pleasure!

Additional inspiration:

+ Choose one affirmation to guide your day/ week/ month. Great examples here, here and here – and I wrote a bunch in this post too.

+ Join the lovely Chantelle Elem’s Photo-a-Day Challenge – the February challenge is just around the corner!

+ Write one paragraph in your journal every night to describe your day. Detail how you felt, what you did, who you chatted to, what steps you took towards your dreams.

+ Decide that instead of trying to catch up with all your friends every weekend – racing here, there and everywhere – you’ll commit to seeing just one of your beautiful friends and give them your full, undivided attention.

+ What are your thoughts on ‘the power of just one thing?’ Do you agree that doing less and doing it well leads to greater achievement of your dreams?

Images: Faded from the winter | Live Now 

2011: The Magical Moments of The Year That Was

As the year glides to a close, I thought I’d take a hop, skip and a jump down memory lane and reminisce on some of the beautiful moments that unfolded in 2011.

It was a transformative, expansive year and I learnt a lot. One of my motto’s for the year was “Do more of what makes you happy” and looking back, I’m happy to say I did just that!

Here’s what I got up to:

The first two months of 2011 were typically buzzing with activity (so full it appears we forgot to take many photos to document the frivolity!)

I kicked off January with a new chapter of my career, progressing my role at work from a straight Public Relations role into a more in-line-with-my-future role in Digital Communications. No more sneaky Facebook checks at work – I’m now the one staff member in the company that can have the screen up for as long as I want, guilt-free!

Apart from spending plenty of time down south in Byron Bay, Ramai and I had headed north for a romantic weekend away on the Sunshine Coast and devoured one of the best Asian feasts we’ve ever eaten at Spirit House.

February saw us at the Rihanna concert (with some freebie tickets, courtesy of my lovely PR contacts) and down in Byron again checking out two wedding venues – both of which we fell in love with from the get-go. Pretty much on the spot, we locked in the one that was available on 12 May 2012, and that was that… or so we thought.

If only we’d known then that the first property we checked out on that visit to Byron would actually become our wedding venue (with a little date change thrown in the mix!) A crystal ball would have come in very handy, but alas, it would take almost a full year for the ends of the circle to meet.

Magical March rolled around and we were off on a U.S adventure – first stop, NYC baby!

It was our second visit to the gorgeous city that will forever be my “happy place” and we shopped like demons, watched Aussie band Art vs. Science rock the roof off the Mercury Lounge in The Bowery, hung out in Central Park, explored Brooklyn, went to the Bronx Zoo and stayed at the Mondrian in Soho, which was divine (the front restaurant Imperial No. Nine has the most incredible decor).

We then jetted back West, where we stayed with our friends Ben and Ali in San Francisco, met up with a friend from home who was in the U.S for Coachella, ate delicious food in The Mission, took the obligatory tourist shots of the Golden Gate Bridge and then drove out to Bear Valley for some snowboarding action and a cosy stay in Ali’s family cabin. Epic times.

Shortly after our return to Oz, I got Invisalign braces, something I’d been planning on doing for about a year.  Number One Invisalign Fan Girl here, so impressed with how they’ve straightened my teeth so far!

The AFL season also kicked off, and with the introduction of a new Gold Coast team, my footy-mad fiancé was in sporting heaven for the next 6 months.

I learnt about 3 years ago that I could either cultivate a love of this game or hate my life for 6 months a year so I decided on the former and got up to speed with the rules quick smart. Watching the game live is always a bit of fun and between (Ramai’s beloved) Essendon and his “second team”, the Gold Coast Suns we watched about 6 live games in 6 months this year. A handy hook-up for the Chairman’s Club corporate box through my job made that significantly more raucous bearable!

In May, we also stayed in Byron for 3 days for the nuptials of our friends Amber and Giles. Beautiful wedding, and Ramai made a dashing groomsman!

June, glorious June!

This was a stand-out month for me because we celebrated our 5 year anniversary on June 3 at our favourite restaurant in the Byron Hinterland, Harvest, and as you can see by photos, it was a cracker of a day! Absolutely perfect weather, which thrills me to bits because we’ll be getting married on June 2 in 2012. Mother Nature, if you’re listening, a repeat of this year’s sunshine would be fabulous.

We were also in a wedding competition for a bit of fun but the biggest news in June is that I launched In Spaces Between on the 11th (which happens to be my lucky number). I haven’t looked back since, it’s seriously been one of the best decisions I’ve ever made and I can’t wait to see where it takes me in 2012.

In a month full of highs, the only downer was saying goodbye to my best friend Jess, who is also one of my bridesmaids, as she headed down south to start a new chapter in her life in Melbourne.

I didn’t have to wait very long to see Jess though as we headed down to Melbourne in July and had an awesome weekend doing what we always do when we visit Melbourne – shopping, eating, drinking and going to the MCG to watch Essendon play. Predictability plus!

In August, we attended our second wedding of the year, celebrating the love of our friends Judi and Kris at Sirromet Winery, which was simply gorgeous.

In exciting news, I also did my first interview for In Spaces Between and spent the day getting my hair and makeup done and posing up a storm for a feature in the Gold Coast magazine. So much fun!

I’ve also been interviewed here and here in the past few months.

All of a sudden it was Spring and we jumped on a plane again to Sydney for Jimmy and Nikki’s wedding, which was full of vintage quirk and totally “them.” Loved it!

Feeling  the effects of one too many social commitments, I launched the In Spaces Between Life Reset in mid-September, and did both an Urban Remedy juice cleanse and the Clean Program detox. As expected, my energy skyrocketed, my skin got crazy glowy and I felt a trillion bucks (which reminds me, it’s definitely time to revisit the Clean program – immediately, if not sooner).

On the wedding front, we made a hard decision to change our wedding venue and headed back to the Byron Hinterland to inspect (and subsequently book) our second property. We thought we were onto a winner here for sure.

In October, I packed my bags again for Melbourne to attend the Problogger Event, where I was thrilled to meet Christina, Bree, Steph and Nikki (fabulous ladies).

My bestie (another one of my bridesmaids) Ez also flew down from Brisbane for the weekend and Jess, her and I hit the town, having a jolly old time at a Tiki bar in Fitzroy called LuWow, which is like nothing I’ve ever seen.


It was just like everyone says – when you try on The One, you just know. It goes with out saying I’m majorly in love, the workmanship is exquisite!

The girls cried (sobbed hysterically in Jess’ case) and I couldn’t wipe the smile off my face all day. We checked into The Blackman, drank champagne and squealed a lot to celebrate.

And the best bit? I have 3 more trips to Melbourne for fittings in 2012 (the gown is made to measure), which is a massive win because – if it’s not obvious – I’ve kinda got a ginormous crush on that bustling city.

* The sad news of October was that my dear Granny passed on at 94. Her quick wit and cheekiness will always be missed.

November is always special to me because it’s my birthday month (I turned 29 this year) but this November was even more superb because my other bridesmaid and gorgeous best friend Megan gave birth to her little girl Mabel!

Cute as a button and oh-so-snuggleable, she is beyond angelic with her pretty little face and long, delicate fingers. It’s love.

As usual, my birthday was celebrated with a party with my nearest and dearest – I love an excuse to bring my favourite people together – and my man blew me away with a (completely unexpected) gift voucher to buy a new bag from Net-a-Porter. I felt totally spoilt.

The highlight of the month of November was meeting Kings of Leon and rocking out at their concert. A lowlight was finding out our wedding venue had been sold. Insert sad face.

The first few weeks of December were a bit of a rollercoaster ride for me to be honest, dishing up everything from extreme highs to anxiety-laden lows, and it was all related to the fact we no longer had a wedding venue.

Within two weeks we went back and forth to Byron about 4 times and every time we’d leave a venue inspection, I got this sick feeling in the pit of my stomach. One time, I almost had to get Ramai to pull the car over, I felt so sick – that was the extent of the burning feeling in the pit of my stomach that we weren’t on the right track. I think my body may have taken the whole “gut reaction” thing a little far.

And then… Christmas week was upon us and we had a winner! The first venue we’d ever looked at became our dream (third and final) venue – and we couldn’t be happier! Everything had come full circle.

In hindsight, it’s so funny how things work out isn’t it? Our wedding weekend will now coincide with our 6 year anniversary. Synchronicity.

The rest of the Xmas break has been all about food, wine, family and friend catch ups, 2012 dream setting in Byron, reading and Rach’s Very Own Version of Relaxation – which is not really “relaxing” at all, just lessening the load (I think I’d have to take myself to an Ashram to master the art of “doing nothing.”)

1 // Discovering that old pallets from the side of the road can be turned into fabulously rustic decor with ease.

2 // Raw bliss balls, of which I ate at least 5236 in 2011.

3 // Sunglasses obsession ahoy! COULD. NOT. STOP. BUYING. THEM.

4 // Op shopping my little heart out. I scored some seriously good loot every time I thrifted this year!

5 // 11:11 – it haunts me, in the best possible way.

6 // Protea love. I’m obsessed with these unusual flowers, the colours and shape are totally captivating.

1 // When you put yourself out there, amazing things happen. Starting is all that matters.

2 // There’s nothing more freeing than letting go of perfectionism. Previously, I was that girl that obsessed and fussed over everything before launching it out into the world, and man, did I have an eagle-eye for typos. Now I’m the girl that makes them. Life’s too short. Get messy. Screw up. Move on. If you need more convincing, read this.

3 // When you’re prepared to flow with life’s vibration, trust and adapt to change – even if it doesn’t make sense at the time – the universe opens the door to even greater rewards. The miracles multiply. Tenfold.

4 // Shifts happen when you let go.

5 // Doubt means don’t. If your heart isn’t screaming “YES!,” hold off. It’s ok to say no.

6 // Practicing gratitude is one of the best gifts you can give yourself.

7 // There is no right or wrong way. Your interpretations = your experience = your development.

8 // All you need to do to live your passion is discover what lights you up – the work you’d be willing to do even if you weren’t getting paid – and take steps towards that dream every day until it’s yours.

9 // On the same note, when you’re doing what you love, it won’t feel like work. You’ll sacrifice nights and weekends and spare moments to wrap yourself up in that creative energy. You’ll work harder than you ever have before but you’ll come alive.

10 // The Internet is a beautiful place (when you make it so) and can connect you with the most magnificent people. Commit to a personal standard to always spread positivity online, and reach out to people. A new friend is just a tweet/ comment/ email away.

11 // Everything is better when you eat well, exercise and switch off when you need to. Honour your body – first and foremost.

12 // Life isn’t a dress rehearsal. This is it. Right here, right now. Go out there and SHINE.

As the clock ticks over and you usher in the glorious New Year tonight (or tomorrow for our Northern Hemisphere friends), decide on the way you want this year to play out for you. What do you want to bring into being? What magic are you going to weave into your life? Draw in a deep breath and send your intentions for 2012 out into the ether… knowing that once you make a decision, the Universe conspires to make it happen.

Thank you for sharing my journey in 2011, I’m enormously grateful for your support, and together, we’re going to blow 2012 out of the water!

A Christmas Wish


I woke up at 5am this morning, grabbed a blank piece of paper and a Sharpie and started writing a list of things I had to do over the holidays, starting tonight and taking me right up to New Year’s Day.

I filled every day with “stuff” – catch ups with friends and family, appointments, a goal-setting day, a wedding moodboard-creating day, a day to clean up my files and sort through my paperwork.

With a purposeful thud, I stuck my big black list on the pantry door (“in eyeshot, to keep me on track”) and ignoring the tightening of my heart, I started to get dressed so I could get out and hit the running track.

Not 20 seconds later, in a flash of early morning reason, I was back in the kitchen ripping that big, black list off the pantry door and throwing it straight in the bin.

To-do lists need a holiday too.

I’m all for structure and will most definitely step up to the plate when structure is called for. I get productivity, I get routine. Evernote, daily early morning exercise, lists, phone reminders, regular weekly blog posts et al… I’m talkin’ to you. I’m not envisaging the demise of the to-do list in my stratosphere any time ever soon.

I also know, however, that the times I feel most alive are when I roll over in the morning and whisper in my man’s ear “Let’s roadtrip baby, let’s just go wherever.”

No plans, no need-to-do’s – just the open road and a spontaneous heart.

So here’s to an unscheduled Christmas break. If you’re anything like me and feel like you’re “wasting” the day if you don’t have anything planned, allow yourself to unfold into this new, unfamiliar space as you refuel and re-energise for 2012. Leave room for the dance of life. Stay in bed all day with a good book, be open to spur-of-the-moment experiences – a lunch with a friend that turns into a wild night out, or a trip to the next beach that sees you hours away from home. Invite adventure in.


As you pour yourself a glass of bubbles and share a belly laugh with your loved ones this Christmas, think of the things that have been magical and beautiful and eye-opening in 2011. What are you proud of? What are you grateful for?

I’ll be publishing a post next week that delves into my 2011 a little more, but above all, I’m proud of making good on my promise to myself to start a blog and I’m grateful for love. Simple stuff, but at the end of the day, isn’t love the most important gift we can ever give each other and ourselves? I certainly think so, and I’ve been blessed with lashings of it this year. Completely humbled.

“You can always take a fresh start” ~ Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche

I’ll finish by saying that I’m taking a little bloggy break to recalibrate and will be back in the New Year, bursting with inspiring ideas and stock-full of creative moxie.

BRING. ON. 2012. The butterflies in my stomach (the excitable type) tell me it’s going to be our best year yet!

With warm holiday wishes and abundant dreams for us all,
Rach xx

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