Collaboration and Celebration with Violet Gray


In recent months, whenever I’ve had the pleasure of catching up with my beautiful friend Alex, she’ll inevitably end up crouched down in front of me, both hands — and possibly a cheek — placed lovingly on my pregnant belly, a smile on her face and her eyes aglow as she coos at my little lion cub.

You can’t help but be buoyed by this woman’s love for life and the people in it. These acts of expression and connection and demonstrative tenderness seem to come as naturally to her as breathing.

She’s heart and soul and magic, in human form.

And it’s that same spirit that has woven its way into the fabric of her intentional jewellery brand, Violet Gray

Co-piloted with her gorgeous sis Frances, Violet Gray is a brand thoughtfully constructed on the ideals of generosity, authenticity, instinct, sisterhood, community and meaningful creation — which happen to be the very ideals I endeavour to fuse into my own work in the world.

With that in mind, then, you can betcha it’s an exciting day ’round these parts as I’m THRILLED to announce I’m now a proud Violet Gray brand ambassador!

Before I tell you why this is great news for YOU too, let me share just a little about why I adore VG, shall I? 


Firstly, these pieces are MADE WITH MEANING. Which is hugely important to me, and I’m going to go out on a limb and say since you’re hanging around here, is an important factor for you too.

As I’ve gotten older, and hopefully a touch wiser, I’ve found that owning lots of ‘stuff’ no longer holds any appeal.

I search for quality over quantity. I value the intention behind an object, and I want the things I adorn my body with to be a reminder.. which is why I go so mad for the VG chakra range.

When I’m sitting down for a big writing sesh, or getting ready to speak on stage — I pop on my throat chakra charm to invite in clear communication and creative self-expression.

When I’m meditating, you’ll find me wearing my third eye charm for spiritual (in)sight, or my crown chakra charm to remind me of my connection to the divine.

When I’m in launch mode — a notoriously ‘heady’ time — you’ll most likely see me with a base chakra charm hanging around my neck for grounding and stability.

I also wear ‘Guided Grace,’ a charoite ring, on my finger to usher in flow and ease, and you guessed it, GRACE.


Now, the bit you’re going to love. 

As a celebration of our ‘coming together,’ for the next seven days until Tuesday 30 June, In Spaces Between readers will receive 10% off the entire Violet Gray range * excluding sale pieces.

If you’ve had your eye on one of these beauties for yourself, or if you’ve got a friend/ sister/ loved one with a special birthday or event coming up, now is the time!

:: All you’ve gotta do is ::

Click this link to comb through the site.

+ Then enter the code rachlove at the checkout to receive your discount.

Easy as that.


Tell me, are you the proud owner of a Violet Gray piece already?

If so, which one? Do you wear it to remind you of an intention or energy you want to embody? (your reasons might just help someone else pick their treasure!)

Photos by Tegan McVey

How I Do It: An Interview with Jess Lively


Is there anything cooler than seeing a woman living ‘on purpose?’

Personally, I think not, and let it be said, Jess Lively is doin’ it right. This inspiring former jewellery biz owner (a business she started when she was 15), online entrepreneur, teacher and blogger lives and works from rock-solid intentions daily, and the good news for us onlookers is that she very generously shares the lessons she learns along the way so that we too can craft an intentional life.

What resonates with me most about Jess’ work is that there’s an endearing ‘realness’ to it, and whether she’s talking about career, creativity, life design or decluttering, she is always candid and true. (As a funny aside, I’ve misspelt her surname as “lovely” several times in typing this post – no mistake there!)

Pour yourself a cuppa and read on for stacks on inspiration and honest insights into how Jess Lively does it. 


Let’s kick off with a biggie. Why do you do what you do? 

Quite simply, I help people design lives and businesses with intention. I do this through consulting one-on-one, live workshops, my blog, and most recently with my new ebook, Wish I Knew.

What are three of the biggest lessons you’ve learnt since starting your blog and business?

Oh man, that is a great question…

1 // To have faith in the process. In the 14 years that I’ve run my own businesses I’ve learned to have faith that all things, even the crappy ones, will lead to something better over time if I have faith and go with my gut. There were points when I really had difficulties (like with manufacturers for my handbag line) that were challenging, but the ultimately gave me great experience and expertise to share with my current business consulting clients. So there is always a silver lining if you look for one (even though you might not find it for a while).

2 //  To trust my gut. Over time I’ve learned to listen to my gut, not to what other people may tell me I should do. Most people thought I was crazy to start my accessory business full-time right out of college. Or, they thought I was crazy when I decided to close that same company five years later, because it was successful. But in each case – and through the many smaller decisions in between – I’ve found that my gut will tell me what I need to do. And the result will always be for the best use of my talents and intentions.

3 // Just keep going. Even if I change course or close a company, I have learned more than anything that success is built on the ability to just keep going. You won’t get it all right the first time, you will make mistakes along the way, what worked before may not always work. But if you can trust that you can just keep going, good things are in store for you along the way.


{quote graphic from Jess’ post here}

What’s been key for you in building your tribe online?

Hands down, I think this one is about service. I have truly tried to help people online through my content and that has been essential to my tribe online.

To lead, one must serve. And that is what I try to do to the best of my abilities at any given time.

I know that there’s rarely a ‘typical’ day in the life of a blogger/ entrepreneur/ lady of the interwebs, but can you talk a bit about how you approach your work? What does a week in your life usually entail?

For the past few months I’ve been working on creating a weekly priority list in each role of my life and in my career. I then list the 2 – 4 priorities I have for those roles and schedule them on my calendar or daily to-do list. This helps me stay focused on what is most important, but not always urgent on any given week.

This practice is borrowed from my favorite book, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People.

I then spend my days consulting, at design meetings for a hotel brand/design project I’m working on, writing on my blog, sharing on social media, and completing those priorities on my weekly list.

Describe your creative process. How do you write/ create?

I don’t really have anything too special to share here. I really just create or find a photo I’ve taken for a blog post, edit it, add my title, and write a post. The topics I share mostly come from my life, my work, or any books I’m reading.


Routines and rituals for the soul: can you tell us about the little – or big – things that keep you feeling grounded, joyful, connected, inspired?

I actually just shared recently about my new morning routine (or Private Victory, as it’s called in The Seven Habits). My husband, Mr. Lively, and I have been committed for the past month to taking 45 – 60 minutes to develop our spiritual, physical, emotional, and mental lives each morning.

For me, that looks like 15 minutes of reading from a non-fiction book, 15 minutes of reading from a book about emotional wellbeing, a bit of self-reflection time, and 30 minutes of physical activity.

This habit has been pretty amazing to set myself up for a good day and has given me more peace and self-control each morning.

The not-so-hot days. We all have them. How do you combat overwhelm and self-doubt?

I tend to get a lot of ideas and then want to implement them immediately. This leaves me with a feeling of overwhelm on a not-too-infrequent basis. To help myself when things feel really crazy, I have developed worry flashcards to look at all my concerns and turn them into action steps.

I highly recommend trying it if you find yourself stressed out about a bunch of things in different areas of your life all at one time.



I feel empowered, electric, alive, the most ME when… I’m helping clients one-on-one or in workshops.

I feel restricted when… I worry about what other people think of me.

I’m inspired by… Stephen Covey.

Living with intention means… finding the deep, eternal intentions which our intuitions want us to live by, and then taking action in those directions.

My current mantra/ affirmation is… just keep going.


To wrap up, imagine you’re sitting in conversation with yourself in 10 years time. What are you doing? What does your life look – and feel – like?

I’m learning to balance being there for my children as a mother while helping people design lives with intention.

I am an author and speaker, but I still share daily on my blog as well. I may have a video platform of some sort to help people, but my books and writings are a major method with which to help people.

I live in a great home with a little yard and a garden my husband cares for. We travel regularly, often spending a month or two in different locations and work remotely.

I feel more relaxed about who I am, my reputation, and how I spend my time. I am deeply connected to my spirit and have a strong sense of who I am.


I love how Jess shared above: “I help people design lives and businesses with intention.” A mission that’s beautiful in its simplicity, no?

We’d love to know: what’s YOUR intention, summed up in a sentence or two?

Think about:

The way you live your life

The way you run your business

The way you show up in your relationships

Your intention could capture one or all of these. Add some love in the comments below!

Flashcards image from here. 

The Power of Intention


This blog post is in support of a new book by Michelle Ward and Jessica Swift called The Declaration of You. It’ll be published by North Light Craft Books in Summer 2013 and gives readers “all the permission they’ve craved to step passionately into their lives, discover how they and their gifts are unique, and uncover what they are meant to do.” I’m thrilled to be participating in the tour alongside a host of other creative bloggers, and you can learn more, read the posts, and join in the fun by clicking here.


My palms are sweating. My breath is quick and short, my concentration laser-focused. The thrum of my heart inside my chest signals that I’m well and truly out of my comfort zone. Shiz is getting real.

Gripping the metal cable to my right, I continue the sharp descent down the side of the cliff on iron rungs, twisting around rocks inelegantly, keeping my eyes glued to the Nike Free’s on my feet and shooing thoughts of the 1000 metre drop below out of my mind.

We’re meant to have harnesses, and no doubt, proper hiking boots. We have neither. Did I mention my pounding heart?

For what seems like an eternity, we weave down and around the side of the mountain, with one of our new friends, the Aussie, up ahead leading the way and the other, a softly spoken Frenchman, behind me, instructing me gently in broken English to put both hands on the cable.

It’s a warm day and I can feel the heat rising up in my body – beads of sweat gathering on my skin, a cocktail of exertion and adrenalin.

We’d only just met our buddies in the cable car up from the valley in Schetlberg to Mürren in the Swiss Alps.

Ramai and I had been mountain biking all day and had our bikes with us in the crowded cable car, and the friendly Aussie (Douggs*) struck up a conversation about the local trails, which soon lead to us quizzing him about base jumping – their intention for the trip up.

The cable car came to a stop in Mürren and the boys set off down the street, which is when – pivotal moment – I decided to ask them if we could come and watch their jump, knowing that seeing them “fly” in the wingsuits would be a pretty spectacular sight.

Of course! Douggs said, we’d love you guys to come, and told us that the trip to the jump spot could be tricky at times** but that we’d be fine.

All in the name of adventure, right?


On our flight from Australia to Europe, I was writing in my journal and turned to Ramai and said “Let’s set some intentions for this trip.”

I scrawled down five, with the first two being Embrace adventure and Truly BE in the moment.

Before we left, life had been abundantly work-centred (along with some generous overtime on the transformation/ growth side of things; there have been some big shifts this year) so I’d been hankering for some good ol’ fashioned fun, adventure and spontaneity. The words had tumbled out of my mouth on numerous occasions…

“I’m so ready for the kind of adventures that make you feel all tingly and alive. Heart-racy stuff. Oh-my-god-that-was-awesome kinda stuff.

“Life, I’m ready to be thrilled.”

Well. Ask and you shall receive. Never underestimate the power of intention.




Goethe said (about making a commitment to move towards a goal) ….“A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favour all manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come his way.”

Coincidences. Synchronicities. Good fortune. Being in the right place at the right time. That’s exactly what happened to us.

Whilst I’d normally lean towards setting clear, specific goals and intentions, I went kinda vague with this one (embrace adventure) but the powerful part was actually feeling in my body the way I’d feel if life was truly thrilling me. I called on times in my life that I’d experienced unbridled joy – really felt the stomach butterflies and the fully-stretched smile that seems to start somewhere deep within. I knew exactly how adventure would rock my spirit (the tingles, the ba-boom of my heart) and although I didn’t know how it would show up, I knew we’d be looked after.***


There’s an internal energy shift that happens the moment you connect with your intention, and that counts as much as the external actions you take.


So what does living with intention actually mean?

It means:

Calling in the kind of transcendent energy required for growth by declaring what you want. Intention = the simple act of determining mentally upon a result and setting in motion the movement toward that desire.

Being an active participant in your life vs. watching on from the sidelines.

Creating on a much grander scale.

Becoming aware of where the energy is at – the pull – and consciously make it the driving force in your life.

Put simply, intention is the starter gun.

Our adventure with our base jumping friends wasn’t the only one we had over our month in Europe, but it certainly takes the cake.

Terrifying, yes, a little bit reckless, uh huh, but also one of the most exhilarating things I’ve ever done and something I’ll carry with me for a lifetime.

It all started with a declaration. 

* Turns out Chris ‘Douggs’ McDougall is one of the most famous and well-respected base jumpers in the world. See also: crazy mofo. There are no coincidences. This story, with these exact characters, was meant to happen all along.

** Hello, understatement of the millennium. The climb back up… gosh, I get nervous just thinking about it. We passed two other rock-climber-looking dudes on the way up and they both looked at our lack of harnesses and let out a soft, low “ooooooh.”

*** Once your intention has been set, it’s all about trust. Have faith that what you want is on its way and keep an eye out for signs. Say yes to opportunities. Be open to the receiving. It might not look how you expect it to but it’s the depth and heart of the experience, not the form it shows up in, that matters.


Exercise YOUR intent

While I’m not exactly a fan of the term “bucket list” (anyone got a nicer-sounding, more potent alternative?) I love the idea behind creating desire lists and boldly declaring the kinds of experiences we want in our lives.

What adventures are you seeking – now or in the future? What are you working on manifesting in your life?

Anything goes so let’s get some goodness flowing in the comments below, and I’d love you to share this post if it tickled your fancy!